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ho ho ho. nope, chritsmas is not here. neither am i drinking horlicks. lol
Just feeling well, happy maybe. emptily happy. but not happily empty.
Shopped at wisma abit, bought a top from topman, and a bottom from bottomman, and a overall from flexman (haha, only the topman part is true ok)
Sat was great, i got to eat scissor's curry rice wif sean, wilson and jackie THANKS TO sean's.. car. haha. it's a fantastic stall at balestier, kitchener road there. woah. also drank the rocher road that "tau nei" haha
Yuanxiang also joined us, and we played warcraft till 3~!
well, sunday was kinda depressing. Dad lost his temper at me. And well, i got to be mature and control myself, and i have to the right to be angry and offended, but i will not remain offended and i will NOT hate him. haha.
kk. sounds psycho? Swam abit at woodlands and got a REALLY "interesting" book from the library.
It's tittled "If u want love, why settle (just) for sex?"
wow. blown me away. haha. Now u know why aj are SO much more promicous then the average heterosexual out there. becuz there is NOTHING stopping the hormone driven, sex driven, penile driven man out there from having fun with each other. The only reason a "spa" will work only for the aj but not for the heterosexual or the lesbians out there. Becuz men are biologically, psychologically more needy?
*all the above facts are hypothesis from titus phoon. Stands true until it's falsified*
And the book warned about "hurrying" intimacy. To think of it, yeah, kinda true.. it's gonna take time.
*what if i stay celibate till like 5 or 6 years from now, i'm still biologically speaking a, ahem, MAN ok*
BUT, there's a point written that is proven quite true for me, even though it's supposed to refer to a woman.
It states that once a woman have sex, they will be bonded, emotionally to the person. Like it or not. Even if the person is a jerk, u will still "love" him? Or try to win his "love"? Even if he is not even a bit compatible, or just "something" not right. And men, can treat sex and love like completely two different things. Meaning having sex DOESN'T mean that i want to be with u, it just means having sex. hmmm. of cuz there are exceptions, some women can have sex like nobody's business, and not all men treat sex like that (maybe 1% who are most probably asexual)
So which will apply more to the aj man? Will they bond no matter what like the woman? Or can they just separate sex and love. OBVIOUSLY, the stats out there CLEARLY indicate that the aj man CAN treat sex and love like 2 different things and that they lean towards the biological male's supposed mindset idea. BUT, i think that we also get "bonded" no matter what to a certain extent just like the biological female's supposed mindset. I think we might have double the trouble - having sex in impulse and then feel like shit. But i guess we ajs, can switch mindset quite effortlessly. Even those "emotional, ie - feeling" aj can treat sex as just sex.
*above is titus's hypothesis on "the difference in how people treat sex"*
So i think sex can sometimes slow down a relationship and cause complications rather then improve it. Especially when the relationship is still in it's early stage. I do not believe that a relationship MUST have sex to begin with. But i do believe sex would follow with a healthy, stable relationship. Not the other way round. The cart is pulled by the horse, not the other way round. We (at least some of us), expect something "more" after sex, but the other party simply thinks that it's not a big deal. One party will ask for more, and the other party will feel that they do not want to give so much so fast (considering that sex is not consider "much" to them), Ending up with both parties feeling frustrated.
A: why don't u call, why don't u msg, why don't u say i love u. i thought u love me.
in A's head: we had sex u know.
B: what is wrong with u, why are u asking so much, why u so feeling
in B's head: It's just sex u know
So is it A or B's fault? Neither, relationship is beyond who's right or who's wrong. The dynamics in a relationship is not due to just ONE party. Both of them are right, and both of them are wrong. Since nothing can be defined as right or wrong, pray that God bless u. haha.
Xin Fu Shi Zhi Ji Xuan De - so choose well
**above all is titus thinking, talking to himself, because there is nothing to do in web publising. This is not very common. titus is a normal, good, healthy singaporean citizen ok**
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