yenew's Blurty

Part of my new book
Time will not heal. I've realised that it is a conscious choice - to move on or not.

Moving on requires major steps from you. It is not an automatic process.

Work may keep you occupied, but not the loneliest hours in bed. You can work yourself to death, but ultimately, will you be over it?

Unfortunately we all need more than that.

I've come across this "whole person concept" in one of those "Be successful" seminars. We are all supported by many pillars - family, friends, significant other; work; physical health/emotions; religion. So when one pillar collapse, our world will not collapse.

Too often, people in romantic relationships put too much into that single pillar - significant other. But when it fails (which will happen at least once in a lifetime for those who have ever lived a life), it is too big a crisis to handle.

We buckle up, crumble down. But it's ok. Recognise that it's normal - you're not alone in this!

However, I'm here to remind you that you do not need to remain in your valley of sorrow! Turn that journey to a valuable experience. On how to make your life balanced / whole and not let something like this catch you unawares again! =)

*an excerpt from an email to a friend, on which she told me to go write a book*

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