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The Rebel in Us
We're where we are because of three personae within us.

If you believe in Sigmund Freud, then we have 3 identities within us - the ID, the Ego and the Super-Ego. ID is the child in all of us - wanting to do things and yearning for things in a world where there are no consequences. The Super-Ego is like the big brother - the "government" in each and every one of us - to govern our
actions, our thoughts - to ensure that we're being politically correct. Ego, the last of the three, is the mediator guy within us. This Ego decides how much of each persona to suppress or express, and as a result, you see
each of us here today.

The Alter-Ego plays a bigger role in some than others. We can easily identify those with BEEEG Super-Egos: the prim and proper, the very "matured", the no-nonsense kind of people. Similarly, we can spot those ID-dominated people with two eyes closed. Because, we can often hear them before seeing them (think: kids should be seen, not heard!). These are the hardcore people in whatever they do, not thinking of what can limit
them or stop them, or be embarrassed by their actions and people's reactions.

Most of the time, we try to be Ego-dominated (Aristotle's Golden Mean applies... yet again!): to maintain an outward sanity while harbouring that kid in us. The thing is how do we strke a balance (OK this is very Sex And The City style -if you can't spot how it is related to SATC, check out the HBO series)?

We can be Ego-dominated people, but if we let either persona get too suppressed, we're likely not going to end up being happy, balanced people. For example, if you think you're a born dancer, but unfortunately because of
the Super-Ego that says:
"Your parents are not going to like it";
"You have no money to go to a proper dance school";
"You're not going to be able to feed yourself (much less your family) with the money you make",

and you suppress that desire to ever dance professionally die, you're going to appear as Ego-oriented, but unfortunately, leaning to the Super-Ego person.

We all have a rebel in us - or some dreams and desires better left unturned, untouched, unthought, and unfortunately, as a result, unmaterialised. Outwardly, we're still doing fine, being nice Ego-people, but ask
ourselves: How happy are we?

To turn the situation around, why not look at some alternatives to fulfil that dream, or rather, start pursuing that dream?

I have a good testimony to share: I just got news that my church friend was shortlisted for a test and interview at this gaming company - to become a game planner. She's a computer engineer (or something like that), who
eats games, thinks games, plays games and often times, sleep games (OK, i'm copying the COKE commercial that was aired eons ago) and who has always adored the Japanese culture. If she gets through the selection, she'll be learning Japanese for 2 months in Singapore, before being posted to Japan for a 1.5 year training programme. And that company she's going to in a couple of hours for the selection is also the company that produced Street Fighter, Bubble Puzzle and the likes of it.

Never be satisfied being the tortise in the well. Keep that hope guarded, and watch out for opportunities to fulfil your dreams some day! As said in the Shawshank Redemption (a movie), "hope is something that no one else
can touch or destroy".

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