let's play catch up. I haven't updated this in a while. I've been spending alot of time with Anita. Between work and just spending time with her. it's been a nice thing.
I wrote about a karaoke contest that was going to hapen at the end of last month. it happened and I came in 3rd place. Anita, who belted out great versions of "Give me One reason"(Tracy Chapman song), "I'm the only one"(Melissa Ethridge) and "Commitment"(Leanne Rymes), came in second and a black woman I know named Stephanie, who has a real amazing singing voice, won first place. So Steph won the $1000 Anita won $500 and me for third place, won a tab at the bar that did this (Bronco Billy's in Lake Delton/Baraboo) of $300. So I have $300 worth of free drinks there. The songs I did were my usual Forever in Blue Jeans, Hurt(Johnny Cash) and "Have You Ever seen The Rain"(Rod Stewart's version which I love alot).
Some of my friends ribbed me for Anita being better but I took it in stride, I'm glad she entered. her and I bowled together in a 8 pin tap tournament this past sunday, it was a fundraiser for the Dells High School. she picked out a hat for a dor prize and I got a new Glauston Brewing company t-shirt as ojne(everyone got a door prize).
I hate snow, and after this winter and all the snow we've been pounded with, I REALLY HATE FUCKING SNOW! I hate rain but snow has really annoyed the ever living FUCK outta me.
Ever since I switched from drinking beer all the time to what is known at the chalet as a "vcr" (Vodka, cranberry juice and redbull) Everyone has noticed that I'm in a much better mood. The way it effects me over the beer is almost like night and day.I still have beer but not as often as I used to. Had beer this past weekend and after knowing how much vodka is put into my "vcr", there's a definete change in alcohol level change, lol. I wound up having the "vcr" at the chalet, then we went to the showboat where I switched to beer (costs more for the vcr at shownboat than chalet), then when we went back to chalet I switched back to the vcr. Showboat has karaoke every weekend and Anita has gotten used to how the showboat is. it's mostly a place(On weekends) where the weekend tourists come into, get drunk and stupid. Anita and I(and depending who else, her friends or mine wise) joke about how dumb they look. Every dumb drunken act you could ever want to see, sooner or later happens at the showboat. We know a few regulars from the chalet that show up so for her, it's made her feel safer because it's a just in case for her, if she gets in a situation and say I might be outnumbered, she knows that I usually have acouple other friends scattered in there that'll be right there to back me up. On the flip side I know one of the owners, one of the bartenders(I work for her father's resteraunt), the doormen and the couple that run the karaoke show, so I have many insurance policies. Not that I've ever had a problem because most of these weekenders just part the path when i walk by. My biker shirts, boots, etc. usually give the impression I want and if a guy tries to hit on Anita, she points over to me and says "Ask my boyfriend over there if you could buy me a drink and see what he says". They usually stop dead because they see me coming back and walk away. I let her take care of herself until I get "the look", which is "help".
saturday night one guy wasn't getting the hint and I was at the bar getting drinks for me, her, and acouple of her friends. All heard was Anita start swearing and I spun around like a reflex action. I told the bartender "one minute" threw money down to cover the drinks and went right over there. Before I could get there the door man(who is a real big guy i know from another bar in town) was right there. My friend Al and his father came and held me back. I found out that the guy had tried to hit on Anita, she was nice at first but then he grabbed her ass and she went off on him. She threw half her screwdriver in the guys face and lashed out at him. He was gonna slap her when the door man, the guy's friends, me, Al and his father, all showed up.
They were all more worried about how I was gonna hit the guy, I let the doorman do his job even though it was quiet apparent I was PISSED.The guy was 86'd, his two friends apologized to me and I said, "Don't apologize to me, he didn't grab my ass, tell it to her". They did and they left with the guy that was escorted to the door and out the door in a not so nice way. The doorman mike was worried I'd go out after the guy and I said No. he's not worth it. Had I saw him elsewhere later that night, then maybe. After they left Mike looked at me and said "I knew you were coming right there. I was more worried of you beating the guy up". Everyone who knows us or sees us on a regular basis knows it's obvious her and I are together.
Anita has this thing about being grabbed or touched like that in public. I knew about it ahead of time and I just don't do that kind of shit anyway. If you're with someone or wanting to get with someone, why grab their ass in public? What does that prove, that you're a macho moron? her and I slow dance we have our arms around each other and we kiss, but I never move my hands like that. There's a thing called respect that you give women. I try to.
When the snow finally melts I'll be riding around on a Harley so I may change the name of this journal to Biker Bill's Journal. I have one more payment on it but I already have it. Bought it used and it needed alittle work but man, I love the way it sounds and rides. Anita looked at me after I got it and said "ooh I'm gonna be a biker chick now", and gave me a look that showed me she liked the idea that I got a motorcycle.
Unfortunately my ex g/f debbie has been spreading all sorts of shit about me in NH and pretty much all my "friends" there, have sided with her. I say fine, they're 1200 miles away and they don't see what's going on here so if they want to think Debbie was right in what she did, then go with it.It just re-enforces my opinion of women in that area of NH which I had nicknamed "Bad Relationship USA" because most women there are in bad relationships and if a nice guy happens along, they fuck em over and go back to what they're used to, a bad relationship. Nothing changes if nothing changes and it's nice to see nothing has changed there.
These same "friends" are also in 12 step programs for alcohol and/or drugs and they hate hearing how I can drink again. It's almost 1 months and everything they said was gonna happen to me, hasn't happened, and that drives them nuts because I proved them wrong. Quite the opposite has happened and it sends a bad message I know but hey, truth hurts and they just can't stand hearing the truth. I think they're mostly jealous that I had started drinking again and everything they said about "in a year I'll lose everything" didn't happen and in the almost a year (well 11 months now), I've gained more which is totally against the "program" way's message.just like I have proven God wrong, I've proven others as well and they can't handle it. I'm glad Debbie decided to be a fuck up again. I really am. Because if she didn't fuck up like something in my gut told me she might do, I never would've met anita. So in a way I do have to thank debbie for being a fuck up because in the end, I met a better woman.
My own sister had a gut feeling that debbie was gonna fuck me over, I didn't want to believe it but I thanked my sister for being right.
Bottom line this is what happened between her and I. Too many stories went around so I may as well tell the truth since debbie won't. I was online talking with her, having a problem making a webpage up, i was in a bad mood and didn't want to talk. I told her that, but then she pushed and pushed and then said something about her daughter Becky which pissed me off more (Becky is like her mom, get treated like shit by a guy and then go back to the guy so she can get treated like shit some more, again proving that that part of NH is known as "Bad Relationship USA"). I didn't want to give my opinion on it because I was already in a bad mood. Debbie pushed and pushed and I finally let it out what I thought, and she gets pissed. Why even bother asking me when you know you're gonna be pissed at what i say? That sure makes a bunch of sense. I log off because I didn't want to get into an argument with her.
What does she do? She posts something in a community that i was a well known member of. Claiming I'm playing mind games and other stuff(She then deleted it two days later, and deleted everything including her own journal, which just proved she was looking for an 'out' because she her little secret was she was still married and lying all along). Why post something in aplace you know I'm gonna see it at? emphasize the word DUMB here. Anyway after I saw that I said "see ya later", I don't need this bullshit again from her, same ol same ol debbie, when it comes to her backing up what she says, she doesn't do it and then plays the victim when her own actions dictated her own fate. That night after I saw what she posted, I went out, and met Anita for the first time. so one door closed and another opened, just that fast.
As it is now, Anita and I are having serious talks of moving in together. we're always together when we're not working, and she even got me a little side gig at the hospital she works at, working in the kitchen area. my experience at various resteraunts has helped here. and on my days off from my regular job I'm working in the hosptial kitchen. It's a nice challenge but it is easy once I've gotten the hang of things there. She knew there was an opening and I know got my foot in the door because of her. me staying there is because of how good i do my job. I deliver food to patients as well and go past the station where Anita is too, so there's a bonus, LOL!
probably when all the snow melts we're gonna get a place together. I'd like to stay in the dells and she I know likes baraboo but she said if we can find a decent place in the dells, she'll compromise. I know of acouple places that are either up for sale, lease or will be for rent within the next 2 months(It's all in who you know here), so I know of a small 2 bedroom house that'll be up for rent, a rent to own deal thru someone I know. I think that might be the thing we go for. nice driveway, small yard garage, etc etc. We'll have to see.
Anita, I know you'll see this. I told you monday night to your face and I said it last night on the phone. I'm so glad I met you and I do love you. You're the one that fate has had in mind for me and I'm so glad we're together. Thank you and I love you.
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Current Music: Charlie Rich- Behind Closed Doors