rebound date A few days after the fantastic date with the "
adorable actress" (who I might better have described as "adorable jazz singer", because I think she has more potential as a singer), I had a misunderstanding with her – a tiny slip-up while talking on the phone, aggravated by an apology that was sincere, but which sounded all wrong to her. I was worried that it was all over with her. Fortunately, I've smoothed over that, and even managed to recover from a more serious matter that came up later. Anyway, the point is, on April 11 I thought things were all over with the singer-actress.
So, what does on do when a seemingly promising date is followed up by things going awry? One possible answer is the rebound date. I hadn't exactly intended for it to be a rebound date, but that's how it turned out.
First, more background. As with the singer-actress, I met the rebound date woman, "Z", on "Sugar Daddie". This is her profile, as of recently:
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Member Name:
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This person has placed you on their HOTLIST!
Introduction: I'll amuse you! If YOU amuse me! LOL!
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[flirtatious portrait, face and shoulders]
[serious-faced portrait, waist up wearing strapless dress]
[smiling portrait, waist up wearing strapless dress]
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Sex: | SugarBabe (female) |
| Relationship: | Strictly Sugar Daddie/Babe relationship |
| Location: | Washington |
| Occupation: | Other |
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[40ish]
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| Ethnicity: | White/Caucasian |
| Body Type: | Average |
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[short]
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| Education: | Some College |
| Hair Color: | Black |
| Eye Color: | Green |
| Drink: | Light to heavy drinker |
| Smoke: | I do not smoke |
| Drugs: | I do not do drugs |
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Describing Myself:
Hello EVERYONE! I am looking to meet interesting people with interesting, interests that are interested in some interesting converstion with me. If your interested in mine let's talk! Shall We? As for some basic info on myself. I am single. Not currently dating anyone. AT ALL. LoL! Did the long term relationship thingy. And really just want to see what else is out in that great big, wide world. With someone who is genuine and sincere. I promise! Not to embellish if you Won't. Deal. And I am just tired of others mens idea of a date consisting of take out and a video. Never been treated like a princess. YET. I am not much into being materialistic. Would rather have a Jeep over a JAG. I will leave those for boys that love their Toys! LOL! Love /[her first name].
She
last logged in Wed Apr 08, 2009
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So, what happened on the date? She had sent me her phone number after just a few e-mail contacts, so I started things rolling by phoning her. Soon we had a plan, complicated by the fact that she can't drive at the moment.
I showed up at the agreed-upon Starbucks a bit ahead of the agreed time. I ordered tea and waited. After while, I was still there alone and waiting for her to show up. Finally, the clerk said the dreaded words, that I had to leave because they were closing.
I moved to the car to wait in the cold. Eventually she phoned and said she wouldn't be able to get there any time soon, because her car wasn't working. After some discussion, she said I could pick her up near her house, and gave me directions. I followed the directions, getting slightly lost along the way, and found her when soon enough.
We discussed what to do, and I suggested, "dinner, then sex." She laughed, because I was joking and she knew it; during e-mail discussions she had expressed scorn for guys who think that buying a woman dinner would impress her enough that she'd want to have sex with them.
After a bit of driving around along a street that was home to many restaurants, looking for a place that was decent and still open for dinner, we chose a Mexican restaurant. We had drinks first – I forget what – then ordered food. We talked for a long time, enjoying the conversation, even though my mind was mostly on the topic of the "adorable actress" rather than on her. She found the story of my suddenly smitten state interesting. She found the complications in the relationship interesting. She seemed to find me interested, but I'm not available – between being married and having my mind on the actress, there was little room for her except as an observer.
We stuck around at the restaurant until it was ready to close down for the night. We were the last ones out, or close to it, but the restaurant people were never pushy.
After leaving, she guided me back to her house. We talked along the way, finally breaking the conversation away from the actress. I told her about some other dates. She told me about some of hers. I jokingly asked about the after-dinner sex, and she laughingly declined. She mentioned a guy who had given her an allowance for some months, large enough that my reaction was, "holy shit!" I asked whether a guy of exceptional hotness might gain her attention for a smaller allowance, and she had two comments. She'd never accept an allowance from someone she didn't already find attractive and pleasant company; that's the distinction between a sugar daddy and a john. Additionally, if a man were a serious relationship candidate, she might not expect any sort of allowance, as long as she felt that the relationship was in track to becoming more serious.
She felt sufficiently comfortable with me that she guided me all the way to her home. I leaned over for a kiss, and I got a couple of polite, mild kisses. She invited me to contact her again after working through my strong feelings about the actress, if I wished. Otherwise she didn't think I had much room in my thoughts for her, which was quite right.
It was a pleasant date, and wonderful as a rebound date. And remarkably, she seemed pleased by the evening too, even though she wasn't the center of attention like one would expect to be on a date.