Blurty for languidly daydreaming.
|Sunday, February 15th, 2004|
So the cousins made it!
2004-45286 TEVES, CHRISTINE OSORIO DILIMAN BS COMPUTER SCIENCE
2004-45255 TEVES, DANIEL DEXTER OSORIO BAGUIO BA SOCIAL SCIENCES
I'm so damn proud of you guys!
|Monday, December 22nd, 2003|
Oh, my life is changing everyday,
In every possible way.
And oh, my dreams, it's never quiet as it seems,
Never quiet as it seems.
I know I've felt like this before, but now I'm feeling it even more,
Because it came from you.
And then I open up and see the person fumbling here is me,
A different way to be.
Ah, la da ah...
I want more impossible to ignore,
Impossible to ignore.
And they'll come true, impossible not to do,
Impossible not to do.
And now I tell you openly,
you have my heart so don't hurt me.
You're what I couldn't find.
A totally amazing mind,
so understanding and so kind;
You're everything to me.
Oh, my life,
Is changing every day,
In every possible way.
And oh, my dreams,
It's never quiet as it seems,
'Cause you're a dream to me,
Dream to me.
Ah, da, da da da, da, la...
|Sunday, December 21st, 2003|
SADDAM Hussein, the dictator of Iraq who sowed fear, terror and violence in his country for more than 24 years, has finally been captured. Unlike his sons Qusay and Uday, who chose to fight it out and died in a blaze of gunfire, Saddam gave up meekly to American forces in his hometown of Tikrit. Probably he was taken entirely by surprise. Or probably he realized that any resistance would be useless.
Saddam's capture should help stabilize the situation in Iraq, but it will not mean an immediate end to the resistance being put up by Iraqi groups to the American occupying forces. His arrest has taken out a tyrant who could be a rallying point of a movement for the return of the despotic regime. It has also taken out a source of financing for the Iraqi terrorist attacks.
Saddam's capture may have some immediate international economic implications. It may result in fewer sabotage attacks along Iraq's vital northern oil pipeline and allow Baghdad to increase its oil supplies to the world market. With an increase in Iraq oil exports, international oil prices might soften. This would benefit developing countries like the Philippines that use a lot of oil for transportation and industry. The revenue from increased oil exports would also help fund the reconstruction of Iraq.
Saddam's capture will benefit US President George W. Bush, who is running for reelection. It will boost his position after the United States' failure in Afghanistan and the hundreds of deaths that the US forces have suffered after their supposed victory in Iraq.
Bush has realistic expectations about Iraq. He said that with Saddam's capture, he did not expect the violence in the country to stop. The resistance to the American occupation comes not only from the Saddam loyalist forces but also from Iraqi and Arab mujahideen who do not want any foreign forces to remain on their native soil. Mustafa Alani, an analyst at the Royal United Services Institute in London, said he expected the Iraqi resistance to now have a more nationalist dimension.
The preferable course of action would be to restore peace and order throughout Iraq and then turn over the reins of government to responsible and freedom-loving Iraqis. But this is easier said than done. There are 15 to 30 groups that were not under Saddam's control or influence, and they can be expected to continue their attacks on the American forces.
Toby Dodge, an analyst at Britain's Warwick University and International Institute for Strategic Studies, says one option for Bush is to call it a victory and cut and run. But an immediate withdrawal by allied forces, he says, would be a disaster for Iraq, for the Middle East and for the strategic interests of the US in the region and beyond.
This seems to be a fair assessment. The US and its allies have the moral responsibility to see to it that the foundations for long-term stability are laid in Iraq.
There is no doubt that the capture of Saddam is an intelligence and propaganda coup. It comes as a timely morale booster for the American troops who have suffered hundreds of casualties after the fighting in Iraq supposedly ended. It is a psychological turning point in the continuing conflict in Iraq. But it should not stop the US and its allies from continuing with their work of pacification and reconstruction in the war-devastated country. It will take some time to set up democratic structures and to choose the people who will run the new government.
Then there is the matter of putting Saddam on public trial. Ahmad Chalabi, a member of Iraq's Governing Council, says Saddam has to stand a public trial so that the Iraqi people would know his crimes. Saddam, the butcher of Iraq, has committed many crimes against his people; there can be no real closure to the long, dark regime of the dictatorship until justice has been meted out to him.
The world will now await the next move of the United States and its allies. The situation in Iraq will stabilize somewhat but much still has to be done to return it to normality and to insure that despotism in whatever form will not return to repress, terrorize and brutalize its people. Sovereignty has to be returned to the Iraqi people but it should be done under the best possible conditions.
source: inquirer.net, Sunday Dec14 2003
|Wednesday, October 22nd, 2003|
The Bush visit
GEORGE W. Bush Jr. has come to Asia not to give away but to solicit money, not to deploy more American troops but to ask the governments of the region to send their own soldiers to secure Iraq, a country it destroyed and occupied. The president of the most powerful country in the world has come not so much to display power as to seek a cover for the crude exercise of its imperial might.
The prime object of this campaign is Japan, not the Philippines, whose President, Gloria Macapagal-Arroyo, obediently dispatched Philippine peacekeepers to Iraq way ahead of any United Nations request. Japan has not fought a war since World War II. Its constitution forbids the deployment of its highly equipped Self Defense Forces outside Japan. Any attempt to flex its military muscle is quickly perceived by the rest of Asia as a revival of Japanese militarism. Bush is pushing hard to bring Japan on board. But Prime Minister Junichiro Koizumi is also facing an election, and despite his popularity, he is not rushing to commit Japanese troops to Iraq without a UN mandate lest he be tagged an American puppet.
The UN mandate came the other day in the form of a resolution unanimously approved by the 15-member UN Security Council. The resolution encourages member nations of the UN to lend a helping hand in the rehabilitation and restoration of order in Iraq. It also concedes to Secretary General Kofi Annan some authority to oversee Iraq's transition to self-rule.
America regards this resolution as somewhat of a coup. By ensuring the support of at least nine members, the minimum number required to pass a resolution, the United States made a veto by any of the big powers awkward. Not wanting to appear outmaneuvered, France, Russia and China were left with no choice but to join the rest in a unanimous vote after offering a few revisions on the US draft. Still, they made it clear they were not sending troops to Iraq as long as that country remained under American occupation.
But America has every reason to celebrate the unanimous resolution. Since March this year, when it went into Iraq without UN authority, invoking a dubious right to wage a preemptive war in self-defense, America has been an outlaw state. Its unilateral invasion of Iraq set a dangerous precedent in a volatile world of highly unequal states. But the prospect of a lone superpower playing the role of a global police, and the financial and military burden this implied, did not particularly appeal to the ordinary American. Occupying Iraq has proved more complex than invading it. More US soldiers have died in Iraq after the war than during the actual invasion. Americans are now asking: If our presence in Iraq is a just cause, how come only our soldiers are fighting and dying there for democracy?
The warrant that America has desperately sought for its war on Iraq is finally in its hands even if this has come late. It makes it easier for countries like Japan to send troops to Iraq as part of an authorized international contingent. But it comes with a price. The exchange deal is access to the American market and a cut in the lucrative business of rebuilding Iraq. The United States cannot hold Iraq indefinitely, or control its resources as if it were its colony. It has to share with the rest of the world what Iraq has to offer. More importantly, it is now obliged to put a definite time frame to the writing of a new Iraqi constitution and the replacement of the US-handpicked Iraqi governing council by a new set of independently elected leaders.
Stripped down to its essence, the purpose of Bush's visit is to ask Asians to help rebuild Iraq from the ashes of war and to relieve American soldiers of the menial job of policing a society whose social fabric has been destroyed. In this regard, his rhetoric as self-appointed champion of democracy and as leader of the global war on terrorism won't be as persuasive as the bilateral trade agreements he dangles.
The failure of US inspectors to find weapons of mass destruction in Iraq has made America's invasion of Iraq appear increasingly unjustified. In the eyes of the world, the US-led war on terrorism now seems nothing more than a warrant for imperial expansion. The genuine sympathy that people everywhere showered upon America after Sept. 11 has turned into contempt. People wonder how a great nation could allow itself to be manipulated by a thoughtless and irresponsible president and the cabal of shrewd businessmen he represents.
None of this, of course, means anything to President Macapagal, who prides herself in being among the first heads of state to enlist in the Bush-led posse against the Saddam Hussein regime. Philippine foreign policy under her presidency has been a steady reversal of whatever progress previous administrations had made toward cutting the American umbilical cord. We are back to the days when the United States chose our presidents for us, when our people could not imagine a life without Uncle Sam.
Thus, we are treated to the sad spectacle of a Filipino President seeking an electoral mandate by shamelessly presenting herself, in the memorable words of Ambassador Francis Ricciardone, as a "first class citizen of the United States." Of the many faults that the Macapagal administration has committed in the last two years and a half, this barefaced subservience to the United States is perhaps ultimately the most injurious to the life of our nation.
|Tuesday, October 21st, 2003|
"One of the great things about books is sometimes there are some fantastic pictures."-January 2000
"What I am against is quotas. I am against hard quotas, quotas they basically delineate based upon whatever. However they delineate, quotas, I think vulcanize society. So I don't know how that fits into what everybody else is saying, their relative positions, but that's my position."-George W. Bush, as quoted by Molly Ivins, the San Francisco Chronicle, Jan. 21, 2000
"This is Preservation Month. I appreciate preservation. It's what you do when you run for president. You gotta preserve."--Speaking during "Perseverance Month" at Fairgrounds Elementary School in Nashua, New Hampshire, Jan. 28, 2000
"I think we agree, the past is over."-On meeting with John McCain, Dallas Morning News, May 10, 2000
"It's clearly a budget. It's got a lot of numbers in it."-Reuters, May 5, 2000
"I will have a foreign-handed foreign policy."-George W. Bush, Redwood, Calif., Sept. 27, 2000
"They misunderestimated me."-George W. Bush, Bentonville, Ark., Nov. 6, 2000
"The legislature's job is to write law. It's the executive branch's job to interpret law."-Austin, Texas, Nov. 22, 2000
"Natural gas is hemispheric. I like to call it hemispheric in nature because it is a product that we can find in our neighborhoods."-Austin, Texas, Dec. 20, 2000
"I do remain confident in Linda. She'll make a fine labor secretary. From what I've read in the press accounts, she's perfectly qualified."-Austin, Texas, Jan. 8, 2001
"I want it to be said that the Bush administration was a results-oriented administration, because I believe the results of focusing our attention and energy on teaching children to read and having an education system that's responsive to the child and to the parents, as opposed to mired in a system that refuses to change, will make America what we want it to be-a literate country and a hopefuller country."-Washington, D.C., Jan. 11, 2001
"My pro-life position is I believe there's life. It's not necessarily based in religion. I think there's a life there, therefore the notion of life, liberty, and pursuit of happiness."-Quoted in the San Francisco Chronicle, Jan. 23, 2001
"It'll be hard to articulate."-Anticipating how he'll feel upon assuming the presidency, January 2001
"I am mindful not only of preserving executive powers for myself, but for my predecessors as well."-Washington, D.C., Jan. 29, 2001
"There's no such thing as legacies. At least, there is a legacy, but I'll never see it."-Speaking to Catholic leaders at the White House, Jan. 31, 2001
"You teach a child to read, and he or her will be able to pass a literacy test."-Feb. 21, 2001
"It's amazing I won. I was running against peace, prosperity, and incumbency."-June 14, 2001, speaking to Swedish Prime Minister Goran Perrson, unaware that a live television camera was still rolling.
"It is white."-Reply to a child in Britain who asked what the White House was like, July 19, 2001
"I know what I believe. I will continue to articulate what I believe and what I believe-I believe what I believe is right."-Rome, July 22, 2001
"The folks who conducted to act on our country on September 11th made a big mistake. They misunderestimated the fact that we love a neighbor in need. They misunderestimated the compassion of our country. I think they misunderestimated the will and determination of the Commander-in-Chief, too."-Washington, D.C., Sept. 26, 2001
"My trip to Asia begins here in Japan for an important reason. It begins here because for a century and a half now, America and Japan have formed one of the great and enduring alliances of modern times. From that alliance has come an era of peace in the Pacific."-Tokyo, Feb. 18, 2002, apparently forgetting a thing called World War II.
"There's nothing more deep than recognizing Israel's right to exist. That's the most deep thought of all... I can't think of anything more deep than that right."-Washington, D.C., March 13, 2002
"I understand that the unrest in the Middle East creates unrest throughout the region."-Washington, D.C., March 13, 2002
"This foreign policy stuff is a little frustrating."-Quoted by the New York Daily News, April 23, 2002
"The public education system in America is one of the most important foundations of our democracy. After all, it is where children from all over America learn to be responsible citizens, and learn to have the skills necessary to take advantage of our fantastic opportunistic society."-May 1, 2002.
"After all, a week ago, there were-Yasser Arafat was boarded up in his building in Ramallah, a building full of, evidently, German peace protestors and all kinds of people. They're now out. He's now free to show leadership, to lead the world."-Washington, D.C., May 2, 2002
"Do you have blacks, too?"-To Brazilian President Fernando Cardoso, Nov. 8, 2001, as reported in an April 28, 2002, Estado Sao Pauloan column by Fernando Pedreira, a close friend of President Cardoso
"The problem with the French is that they don't have a word for entrepreneur."-Discussing the decline of the French economy with British Prime Minister Tony Blair
"I firmly believe the death tax is good for people from all walks of life all throughout our society."-Waco, Texas, Aug. 13, 2002
"The trial lawyers are very politically powerful....But here in Texas we took them on and got some good medical-medical malpractice."-Waco, Texas, Aug. 13, 2002
"I promise you I will listen to what has been said here, even though I wasn't here."-Speaking at the President's Economic Forum in Waco, Texas, Aug. 13, 2002
"President Musharraf, he's still tight with us on the war against terror, and that's what I appreciate. He's a--he understands that we've got to keep al-Qaeda on the run, and that by keeping him on the run, it's more likely we will bring him to justice."-Ruch, Ore., Aug. 22, 2002
"There's an old saying in Tennessee--I know it's in Texas, probably in Tennessee-that says, fool me once, shame on--shame on you. Fool me--you can't get fooled again."-Nashville, Tenn., Sept. 17, 2002
"I was proud the other day when both Republicans and Democrats stood with me in the Rose Garden to announce their support for a clear statement of purpose: you disarm, or we will."-Speaking about Saddam Hussein, Manchester, N.H., Oct. 5, 2002
"I need to be able to move the right people to the right place at the right time to protect you, and I'm not going to accept a lousy bill out of the United Nations Senate."-South Bend, Ind., Oct. 31, 2002
"These people don't have tanks. They don't have ships. They hide in caves. They send suiciders out."-Speaking about terrorists, Portsmouth, N.H., Nov. 1, 2002
"I think the American people-I hope the American-I don't think, let me-I hope the American people trust me."-Washington, D.C., Dec. 18, 2002
"The war on terror involves Saddam Hussein because of the nature of Saddam Hussein, the history of Saddam Hussein, and his willingness to terrorize himself."-Grand Rapids, Mich., Jan. 29, 2003
"When Iraq is liberated, you will be treated, tried and persecuted as a war criminal."-Washington, D.C., Jan. 22, 2003
"And, most importantly, Alma Powell, secretary of Colin Powell, is with us."-Washington, D.C., Jan. 30, 2003
"[The Space Shuttle] Columbia carried in its payroll classroom experiments from some of our students in America."-Bethesda, Md., Feb. 3, 2003
"I don't bring God into my life to--to, you know, kind of be a political person."-Interview with Tom Brokaw aboard Air Force One, April 24, 2003
"We've got hundreds of sites to exploit, looking for the chemical and biological weapons that we know Saddam Hussein had prior to our entrance into Iraq."-Santa Clara, Calif., May 2, 2003
"I think war is a dangerous place."-Washington, D.C., May 7, 2003
"I've got very good relations with President Mubarak and Crown Prince Abdallah and the King of Jordan, Gulf Coast countries."-Washington, D.C., May 29, 2003
"I recently met with the finance minister of the Palestinian Authority, was very impressed by his grasp of finances."-Washington, D.C., May 29, 2003
"I urge the leaders in Europe and around the world to take swift, decisive action against terror groups such as Hamas, to cut funding and support, as the United States has done."-Washington, D.C., June 25, 2003
"You've also got to measure in order to begin to effect change that's just more-when there's more than talk, there's just actual-a paradigm shift."-Washington, D.C., July 1, 2003
"My answer is bring them on."-On Iraqi militants attacking US forces, Washington, D.C., July 3, 2003
"It's very interesting when you think about it, the slaves who left here to go to America, because of their steadfast and their religion and their belief in freedom, helped change America."-Dakar, Senegal, July 8, 2003
"Our country puts one billion dollars a year up to help feed the hungry. And we're by far the most generous nation in the world when it comes to that, and I'm proud to report that. This isn't a contest of who's the most generous. I'm just telling you as an aside. We're generous. We shouldn't be bragging about it. But we are. We're very generous."-Washington, D.C., July 16, 2003
"Security is the essential roadblock to achieving the road map to peace."-Washington, D.C., July 25, 2003
"[T]hat's just the nature of democracy. Sometimes pure politics enters into the rhetoric."-Crawford, Texas, Aug. 8, 2003
"We had a chance to visit with Teresa Nelson who's a parent, and a mom or a dad."-Jacksonville, Florida, Sept. 9, 2003
"I glance at the headlines just to kind of get a flavor for what's moving. I rarely read the stories, and get briefed by people who are probably read the news themselves."-Washington, D.C., Sept. 21, 2003
"See, free nations are peaceful nations. Free nations don't attack each other. Free nations don't develop weapons of mass destruction."-Milwaukee, Wis., Oct. 3, 2003
But back to Dec. 19, 2000:
"If this were a dictatorship, it would be a heck of a lot easier-so long as I'm the dictator."
|Thursday, October 9th, 2003|
My heart is like a singing bird
Whose nest is in a watered shoot;
My heart is like an apple tree
Whose boughs are bent with thickset fruit;
My heart is like a rainbow shell
That paddles in a halcyon sea;
My heart is gladder than all these
Because my love is come to me.
Raise me a dais of silk and down;
Hang it with vair and purple dyes;
Carve it in doves, and pomegranates,
And peacocks with a hundred eyes;
Work it in gold and silver grapes,
In leaves, and silver fleurs-de-lys;
Because the birthday of my life
Is come, my love is come to me.
& A Birthday;
There is freedom within, there is freedom without
Try to catch the deluge in a paper cup
There's a battle ahead, many battles are lost
But you'll never see the end of the road
While you're traveling with me
Hey now, hey now
Don't dream it's over
Hey now, hey now
When the world comes in
They come, they come
To build a wall between us
We know they won't win
Now I'm towing my car, there's a hole in the roof
My possessions are causing me suspicion but there's no proof
In the paper today tales of war and of waste
But you turn right over to the T.V. page
Now I'm walking again to the beat of a drum
And I'm counting the steps to the door of your heart
Only shadows ahead barely clearing the roof
Get to know the feeling of liberation and relief
Hey now, hey now
Don't dream it's over
Hey now, hey now
When the world comes in
They come, they come
To build a wall between us
Don't ever let them win
- Sixpence None The Richer
|Thursday, October 2nd, 2003|
And if the heart can not love
death can not cure it nor sleep
no splendor of wound the heart
had no sound
Bloom has escaped it and
birth the miraculous flower
and music and speech leave
God it can not spell nor sun
nor lover the beautiful word
and it has no sound no sound
jose garcia villa
|Saturday, September 27th, 2003|
|I like women who challenge beauty in its traditional perception. After a while, you simply become used to the same old beautiful face, the same old perfect body. Once, I was stuck in an empty jeepney waiting for other passengers to fill in the seats and saw how the drivers and young lads drool over the sing along video with scantily clad, wet and wild Caucasian models. It was really disheartening to see how they see women as sex objects, cracking sex jokes and mouthing disgusting remarks. "I think people who lack spirituality use their sexuality more because it's physical, but you don't want somebody to be looking at your shell too much if you've got something inside. Your spiritual awareness can get wasted away. Every woman is gorgeous in her own way… so beautiful and emotionally open and we can carry that human life inside, it’s amazing.” – Dolores O’Riordan|
|I have beautiful cats. They are made of stars. They are neurotic. like me.|
|Thursday, September 18th, 2003|
|"The puppy was very cold. Very small, hungry, neglected, and helpless. It makes me cry just thinking of him. I wish I could do something more than pity him. I feel like cursing the world when I see suffering and cruelty. It breaks my heart into tiny, tiny pieces." oh, H O P E, come &overcome me!|
|Saturday, September 13th, 2003|
seduction of silence
eyes like moon and
honeyed voice, quiescent fingers
a deep luscious heart
and my dream of you
|Tuesday, September 2nd, 2003|
MANY men fear being "under the saya" (henpecked) upon getting married, but according to scientific studies, the "influence" their wives have over their lifestyle habits makes them live longer. Okay, I know what some of you smart alecks out there are going to say--the "suffering" that comes after the engagement ring and the wedding ring only makes it seem like men are living longer.
But, seriously, a 20-year study from the University of Warwick has found that marriage actually causes changes in a man's brain, making him feel more contented. The study said a married man could expect to live an average of three years more than a bachelor.
Social control theory
"Social control" is the politically correct term for the "under the saya" theory that researchers say is one reason married people live healthier lives. Studies show that people's lifestyle habits change for the better after they get married.
Researchers call it living a more "orderly lifestyle." No more late-night parties, out-of-control drinking binges and skipped meals. It may sound boring but in the long run, marriage is definitely better for your health.
Social support theory
The other reason is called the "social support theory." Human beings are hard-wired to seek out the support and approval of other human beings.
Clinical psychologist Robert Coombs of the University of California in Los Angeles told Scout News that if a marriage is good, having a supportive partner to listen and always be there is like having a live-in psychiatrist.
Some people may not like to hear this, but researchers have found that even gay couples and unmarried heterosexual couples living together reap the same health benefits as traditionally married couples as long as the partners are exclusively committed to the relationship and living together harmoniously.
The emotional health of your marriage can be an accurate barometer of your physical and mental health. Take, for example, blood pressure. In a study published in the Archives of Internal Medicine, Canadian psychiatrist Brian Baker found that unhappily married people with mild hypertension had higher blood pressure readings in the presence of their spouses and lower readings when they were away from them.
After a couple of years of remaining in their deteriorating marriages, they had a thickening of the left ventricle of their heart, a condition that can lead to heart failure. The happily married people actually had lower blood pressure readings when they were with their spouses.
With scientific evidence like this, I would not be surprised if, in the future, the "my-marriage-is-bad-for-my-health" defense will become a valid justification for separation or divorce.
There is bad news, though, for those with normal blood pressure. Baker says that although further studies still have to confirm it, he does not believe that marital problems alone can actually cause high blood pressure in people who are already not predisposed to it.
But not to worry, there are many more health conditions associated with marital problems that you can use in your defense.
Other studies are finding that marriage is beneficial to the health and well being of not just men but women, too.
Of course, it depends on what kind of a marriage you have. If your marriage is like hell on earth, it will eventually take its toll on your health, not to mention your disposition and outlook in life. A good marriage, meanwhile, will help you live a long and healthy life.
Research confirms that married people live the longest, followed by people who have never married, while separated and divorced people have shorter lives. It appears that it is better not to have married at all than to have entered into a bad marriage.
Illness, bad marriage linked
Studies have found that a bad marriage can give you gum disease and stomach and intestinal ulcers. Marital arguments can cause negative changes in your endocrinal and immune system. Stressful conversations with your spouse can boost the levels of stress hormones, cortisol and epinephrine, and keep them elevated for more than 22 hours after the argument.
Psychologists Wendy Troxel and Karen Matthews of the University of Pittsburgh have found that bad marriage can make a woman more prone to dying from cardiovascular disease. The unhappily married women they studied had higher blood pressure and cholesterol than women who had happy marriages. The conclusion of the researchers was that a good marriage protects a woman from strokes and heart attacks.
Troxel told the American Psychosomatic Society, "Women might think that they're shrugging off a miserable relationship, but their body feels it."
So, ladies, if you are in an emotionally abusive marriage, it may not be so smart to just grit your teeth and stoically endure your fate. It can eventually cost you your life.
Ohio State psychologist Janice Kiecolt-Glaser told USA Today that verbal conflicts in marriage affect women more than men and also lead them to become more ill than their partners. She said that women are much more physically responsive than men to interactions in their marriage.
Women, she explained, remember the arguments in detail. True enough, a 1998 study revealed that discontented married women experienced increases in blood pressure readings just from merely thinking about the fights they had with their husbands.
A 2002 study published in Diabetes Care determined that happily married diabetics manage their condition more successfully than their unhappily married counterparts. The research authors wrote, "This study provides prospective evidence that marital quality predicts diabetes-related quality of life. The marital relationship can be a major support or a significant source of stress."
Psychologist John Gottman of the University of Washington has found that a bad marriage increases your chances of getting sick by 35 percent. Meanwhile, several studies have documented that if you do get sick, a problematic marriage will make your illness more severe.
On the other hand, if you have a supportive partner, you will actually recover faster. Psychiatrist James Coyne notes, "A good marriage can give a person a reason to stay alive. Even when your own determination to get better wavers, the commitment to your partner puts you back on track."
Good marriage life preserver
Linda Waite, sociologist and author of "The Case for Marriage," says, "Marriage is sort of like a life preserver or a seat belt. We can put it exactly in the same category as eating a good diet, getting exercise, and not smoking."
Gottman, who is also the author of "The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work," believes a good marriage is even more important for your health than regular exercise. He told The Toronto Sun, "Working on your marriage every day will do more for your health and longevity than working out at a health club."
And for all you "mama's boys" out there: One of Gottman's basic rules for a good marriage is couples should develop a sense of "we-ness." He says trouble usually looms between a man's wife and his mother. He advises the man to side with his wife.
Next week: Why marriage can make you fat and what you can do about it
IT WAS one of the most searing and deadliest environmental and public health disasters to hit Europe in decades, if not centuries. Last Friday the International Herald Tribune reported that the number of people who died in this summer's heat wave in Europe might have totaled 20,000.
In France, perhaps the worst affected by the canicule (hot summer days), about 10,000 people were reported to have died as a result of the vague de chaleur (heat wave). Many victims were old people who were left at home by family members who left on holiday. (This is something that does not happen in the Philippines, where people bring along the old folks on their vacation trips or sufficiently provide for their food and health needs.)
Another factor that accounted for the insufficient health care accorded the elderly at a time of unusual weather was a law that limits France's workweek to 35 hours. The law left hospitals short-staffed at the height of the heat spell.
The International Herald Tribune said "images of refrigerated trucks and tents set up to hold the overflow of unclaimed corpses... have become the shocking visual leitmotif of this summer." How ironic that a body should enjoy airconditioning and refrigeration when it is already stone cold and dead.
In Spain, a national patients' rights watchdog group put the number of heat wave deaths at 2,000. In Portugal, where fires destroyed hectares of forests, the health ministry reported 1,316 deaths in the first two weeks of August. In Italy, where temperatures rose to as high as 40 degrees Celsius or 104 degrees Fahrenheit, the deaths were estimated at about 1,000. The estimate was in the range of 900-1,000 in Britain and the Netherlands.
In Germany the heat wave prompted the government to impose speed restrictions on the rail network as tracks were buckling in the extreme heat and trains were derailing.
What caused the heat wave? It was attributed to the intense monsoon activity in the sub-Saharan Africa, funneling hot desert air over Europe and blocking cooler air. But it may also have been one indication of the accelerated global warming. The continuous, unabated burning of fossil fuels and industrial activity produce chlorofluorocarbons that punch big holes in the ozone layer that protects the earth from the excessive heat of the sun. Deforestation depletes the oxygen in the air and increases carbon dioxide. Desertification makes the air hotter. We may have seen this year the beginning of the warming of the planet's temperate zones.
One factor that may have aggravated the effects of the heat wave is the lack of airconditioning in the old buildings of France, especially in Paris. Probably the owners didn't think about installing airconditioners because summers in the past were usually mild and the heat was bearable, and indeed, was actually welcome after the harsh winters. In Paris you have to stay at a three-, four- or five-star hotel that is climatis (airconditioned) if you want to escape from the sweltering heat.
Filipinos would easily survive the heat wave of Europe. After all, they are used to temperatures of 35 to 40 degrees Celsius in their tropical country, and even to searing highs of 45 to 50 degrees Celsius in Saudi Arabia, Kuwait and other Middle Eastern countries.
But Europe's experience with this most deadly and disastrous heat wave should serve as a warning to areas in the Philippines that are susceptible to cold waves, such as the Mountain Province. Early this year, in Baguio City alone six deaths were reported caused by the cold wave.
The record heat wave in Europe should also serve as a reminder to us Filipinos that we are in the midst of a continuing environmental disaster that does not seem to worry most of us. We refer to the worsening air pollution in Metro Manila and other cities and highly urbanized areas. A report of the Asian Development Bank said air pollution had caused thousands of deaths and cost about 392 million dollars in treatment in 2001.
Already there are indications that there are some major changes in weather patterns in the Philippines. For instance, August is normally a hot, sweltering month but last month was comparatively mild, and was marked by some typhoons and a lot of rain. We have to prepare for the rest of the rainy season this year which could see more extensive flooding, higher floodwaters and the death of hundreds and the destruction of millions of pesos worth of crops, public and private property unless steps to prevent them or at least mitigate their effects are taken at this time.
We have misused and abused our environment, and now we are suffering the karma of our misdeeds.
|Sunday, August 24th, 2003|
i'm pregnant with thoughts and memories and i just realized how much i hinder myself to write. my gra,m,mar is appalling. i feel so afraid to write. afraid to be judged by someone &
everyone. /the sketches of life outlined here are from my point of view/
english isn't my first language... andthat is not enough as an excuse.
but now i will
stand before you, naked and unashamed
(naked and unashamed)
|Wednesday, August 20th, 2003|
|it's raining! oh, what a wonderful time to read.|
|Friday, August 15th, 2003|
O Lord, you know
I must be this day;
if I forget You,
please do not
Sir Jacob Astley
|Thursday, August 14th, 2003|
A LETTER TO THE ONE GOD HAS PREPARED FOR ME
I am wondering at this very minute if you are thinking of me, if like me, you are wondering what is taking us so long to find each other. Many times I thought I finally found you only to be disillusioned by the fact that my wait has not yet ended. I get up each morning hoping, dreaming, longing to meet you. I am thinking of how we will meet, would it be as romantic as the ones I have seen in movies? Or is it possible that I have known you all my life but we have yet to realize that we are meant for each other? Oh how I wish you were here right now because you are the only one who has the answers to all my questions.
Sometimes I ask myself if I have ever really known "love". I do not have the answer to that question either but I believe that, more often than not, we will never really know what love is until we find that right person.... and since I have not found you yet, then maybe I do not really know what love is! You just don't know how often I dream of finally knowing what it feels like to be in your arms. Even at this very moment I am imagining how you will simply sweep me off my feet! Perhaps I would be drawn to you by your smile, or your eyes, or maybe even how you manage to make me laugh by your silly little ways! I don't really know for sure but I am praying that God will help me recognize you when the right time comes. I think of all the pain that I have gone through in the past and of how much I have cried since the day I began my search. I just wanted you to know that I find my strength in clinging onto my vision of the beautiful life ahead of me --- the life I shall spend with you. In my mind and in my heart I know that you are worth all that pain and sacrifice.
After all, the tears have become a part of my life and I believe that they are slowly washing away my flaws so that I would become perfect, not perfect in its truest sense, but perfect --- for YOU! I wonder if you've gone through so much pain as well.
I wonder if you've been hurt so many times along the journey. But my dearest one, please don't ever give up because I am right here... patiently waiting for you! I assure you that when we finally find each other I would slowly heal those wounds by my love. At night, I would look out my window and stare at the beautiful sky, hoping that somehow you are also looking up and wondering about me. I utter a silent prayer and send all my cries to the heavens above thinking that in time they would reach you. And when I feel impatient, I just close my eyes and believe that you are on your way and that you are longing to see me as well. It is funny but when I finally fall asleep, it is still you that I think of, for you are always in my dreams. It seems that, for now, that is the only place where I can hold on to you, long enough to tell you how much I love you. In my dreams you would kiss away my fears and wrap me with your arms of love.
And this, all the more, makes me want to wake up and face the new day ahead with the hope that soon enough, you will no longer be a dream but a reality and once again I am assured that you are worth the wait. And when that time comes, everything will fall into its place, just as I had imagined, just as I had thought and dreamed, just as I had believed it would be!
By then, I would simply look back and smile at all that I have gone through, in spite of the pain and amidst the simple joys of life --- and I would be very thankful because they all led me to you!
In the meantime, take care of yourself for me. Hold on to our dream and don't even think of letting go. Believe in your heart that we will find each other no matter what happens. God has planned the course and it is up to us to follow the directions. Don't worry, don't be afraid about getting lost, God saw to it that all the roads, no matter which one you choose to follow, lead to me.
|Tuesday, July 22nd, 2003|
i thank You God for most this amazing
day:for the leaping greenly spirits of trees
and a blue true dream of sky;and for everything
which is natural which is infinite which is yes
(i who have died am alive again today,
and this is the sun's birthday;this is the birth
day of life and love and wings:and of the gay
great happening illimitably earth)
how should tasting touching hearing seeing
breathing any--lifted from the no
of all nothing--human merely being
doubt unimaginable You?
(now the ears of my ears awake and
now the eyes of my eyes are opened)
- e.e. cummings
Blurty for languidly daydreaming.