| 8:34a |
"Grammy"
My mom's mom has always been "Grammy" to me, and she is a very sweet woman. And a very generous woman. She gave me a big sum of money at the beginning of every school year that I basically lived off of.
But she and I were raised in different eras. And although some of my opinions are rooted in pretty conservative thought, I do have some more progressive ideas, so sometimes when she says things, I keep my mouth shut. Arguing is going to do no good. Especially in a case like this.
Last night, my mom's side of the family came out for dinner. She has a brother and a sister, who are both married but with no children. (Since they are both in their mid-to-late 50's, it's doubtful that children would happen at this point.)
I was talking to Grammy last night about my cousin Katie's wedding and about being the maid of honor. Then Grammy told me about the "cutest" bridesmaids she'd ever seen, a story which I'd heard once before and it completely rubbed me the wrong way. I don't know what era this happened in, and I certainly don't think of Grammy as anti-woman for thinking this was cute, she is almost 86 years old and we are all products of our generations. She is very stubborn and opinionated, and if she was born in 1984 like I was, she'd probably share my thoughts on this.
In this particular wedding, the bridesmaid dresses were pink, with some sort of apron on them. I guess when it was time for the reception, the bridesmaids turned the aprons around and they were more...kitchenish...and they served everyone.
This probably shouldn't bother me so much! This was probably back in the 1950's or early 1960's or something. but UGH!!! I find it incredibly objectifying.
And don't get me wrong. I also have a very firm belief that women and men were created differently and we have a need to embrace that rather than try and deny it. I just feel like, if in this wedding the bridesmaids were going to be servers, the groomsmen should have been, too. |