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Friday, November 20th, 2009
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2:55 pm
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A man who wants to make a relationship work will move mountains to keep the woman he loves. If he's not calling you to tell you he loves you and wants you back, it should only be because he's showing up at your new residence to do it in person... if he's not doing any of that, he may love you, he may miss you, but ultimately, he's just not that into you. Stop taking his calls and let him know what it's like to live without you.
I'm not sure if I'm happy or completely lost right now. Definitely a little lost, but aren't we all? I have no idea what I'm doing in my life, or where I'm going. And I think I'm okay with that right now. For the first time in a while, I noticed that I've changed. Maybe for the best, maybe not. But does it really matter? When we change, we can never go back.
Set your standards high and never settle for less.
Believe in yourself no matter what, but don't worry
if you stray because the most important thing is
that you've learned along the way. Take all you've
become to be all that you can be. Soar high above
the clouds, and let your dreams be set free.
Sometimes the only thing that people see is what you did.
When in fact, they should be looking at why you did it.
The best revenge is a vow to never be like the one who hurt you.
What you did was unforgivable. You knew what you were doing and you knew it would hurt me, but somehow, that still didn't stop you.
My head was too crazy. The thoughts bounced around inside my skull like a disoriented swarm of bees. Noisy. Now and then they stung. Must be hornets, not bees. Bees die after one sting. And the same thoughts were stinging me again and again.
I can't control my destiny. I trust my soul. My only goal is to just be. There's only now, there's only here. Give in to love or live in fear. No other path, no other way. No day, but today.
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| Friday, November 6th, 2009
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2:03 pm
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HOW TO STAY YOUNG
1. Try everything twice.
On one woman's tombstone she said she wanted this epitaph:
"Tried everything twice, loved it both times!"
2. Keep only cheerful friends.
The grouches pull you down.
(Keep this in mind if you are one of those grouches!)
3. Keep learning:
Learn more about the computer, crafts, gardening, whatever..
Never let the brain get idle. 'An idle mind is the devil's workshop.'
And the devil's name is Alzheimer's!
4. Enjoy the simple things.
5. Laugh often, long and loud.
Laugh until you gasp for breath.
And if you have a friend who makes you laugh,
spend lots and lots of time with HIM/HER.
6. The tears happen:
Endure, grieve, and move on.
The only person who is with us our entire life, is ourselves.
LIVE while you are alive.
7. Surround yourself with what you love:
Whether it's family, pets, keepsakes, music, plants, hobbies, whatever.
Your home is your refuge.
8. Cherish your health:
If it is good, preserve it.
If it is unstable, improve it.
If it is beyond what you can improve, get help.
9. Don't take guilt trips.
Take a trip to the mall, even to the next county,
to a foreign country, but NOT to where the guilt is.
10. Tell the people you love that you love them, at every opportunity.
I love you, my special friend.
11.. Forgive now those who made you cry. You might not get a second chance.
Remember! Lost time can never be found.
Remember that the universe works in perfect order and,
therefore, right now your life is unfolding exactly as it is
meant to be.
I guess the bad moments in life help you
to appreciate the good ones.
So I'll struggle through this rough patch
and come out a better person.
[melissa anderson]
Love the people who treat you right, forget the ones that don't and believe that everything happens for a reason. if you get a chance, take it. if it changes your life, let it. nobody said it'd be easy, they just promised it'd be worth it.
It's okay to lose your pride over someone you love.
Don't lose someone you love though, over your pride.
([ Stick with your entree and get over your sides ])
[fabolous]
this isn't a perfect world.
people do get hurt.
you smile when you feel like crying:
you act like you're okay when you're falling apart inside.
you try to let go....
you try to move on,
because there's nothing else you can do.
You have taken advantage of my vulnerability dear (you hell's minion), and your sharp words and feigned indifference have left me in distress for too long a time. In my desperate search for you I have unknowingly and unwittingly lost myself to the pathetic point of breaking down. I know how deplorable I must have been, maddeningly shouting and crying and begging at you on countless phone calls; but I’ve long regretted those mad acts though sadly they couldn’t be undone. I’ve made a complete fool of myself, trying to pin down a person more of a fool than I am, and though embarrassing it may sound, I could say, unabashed, that I did it all for love.
But lately I’ve come face to face with the dead end of this madness. After all I have realized that I am responsible for fueling my own misery, by granting power to the pain you have caused me. You can’t destroy me any further, all because I’m not letting you. I’m done with this terrible grief. You are a horrible, horrible person, and that exactly is the reason why I now choose not to be associated with you anymore. I’m quite glad though, for all those nights I have bawled my eyes off to sleep, as I’ve given myself a time to vent with my frustrations and absorb all that’s happening in lethargy but in sheer complexity. I stayed true to myself, I have stated the pain as fact rather than fiction, but I tried hard not to be engulfed by it. I cried when I felt like I wanted to, I reminisced what we had, and I pondered hard about where have we gone wrong… and I let go. How do you mend a broken heart? that I have long asked myself and everyone else who had the tolerance to ponder incessantly on that intricate, much inquired of, question. It doesn’t have a blatant answer though, but it just happens. It just heals. I have given myself enough time to heal, and though the scars may fade, they will never vanish. I’m cutting off this string that once bound and constricted both of our hearts, and perhaps, our very own souls. I could only wish you were just a stranger I could disengage. But the spite and apathy I have endured have taught me how to make you invisible to my own world, not just turn you into a mere stranger. Farewell, you horrible person.
I'm not saying I don't want you, cause believe me I do.
I'm just not going to chase after you.
But it doesn't feel right holding someone else's hand. Together on phone lines and living at two opposite ends. But it scares me to think that you could find takers other than me and better than me.
I regret nothing. I do what my heart tells me to do.
Everything you're chasing, seems to leave you empty.
To become whole, first let yourself be broken.
It is not important, the quantity of time you have, to show your love.
But it is important, the quality of time you give, to show your love.
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| Sunday, June 21st, 2009
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1:04 pm
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well, how did you expect it to be?
you signed up for a car crash when you signed up with me.
and you can't swim to safety on a sinking ship.
so go home baby if you're ready to quit.
if you're always looking for reasons not to be with someone, you'll always find them.
and i guess at some point maybe you should let go.
and finally give your heart what it deserves.
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The reason it's so painful when someone disappears is you have to face the fact that the person you loved had probably left you a long time before he grabbed his coat and scrammed.
Where you used to be, there is a hole in the world, which I find myself constantly walking around in the daytime, and falling in at night. I miss you like hell.
In some ways it just gets worse. It's just that the more time that passes, the more you miss someone.
Just because i finally got over you, doesn't mean there aren't days when it all comes rushing back.
Everyone has that relationship that they never quite get over. No matter what happens in between, when you're together its like nothing has changed. Deep down, you both know you're supposed to be together, but you just can't seem to make it work.
You can't keep giving someone everything if you get nothing in return.
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| Tuesday, June 16th, 2009
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3:02 pm
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"the one you love and the one who loves you are never, ever the same person."
“Its not about numbness, its not about an inability to feel, its not about an inability to connect. Its sad because its about real loss, but its real feeling. I’ve given myself up entirely to the idea that you have to feel, you have to feel everything. It has to be absolute raw emotion."
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| Monday, May 18th, 2009
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9:45 pm
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Love yourself, Make peace with who you are. Listen to your heart
if you cant hear what its saying in this noisy world, make time for youself.
Enjoy your own company, Let your mind wander. Try. Take Chances. Make Mistakes.
Life can be messy and confusing at times, But it's also full of surprises.
The next rock in your path might be just a stepping stone Be Happy. Make Do.
When you don’t have what you want, want what you have.
That's my well kept secret of contentment. There aren't any shortcuts to tomorrow.
You sometimes have to make your own way. To know where you're going is only part of it.
You need to remember where you've been too. And if you ever get lost, dont worry..
The people who love you will find you. Count on it.
Now I think moral fiber's about finding that one thing you really care about.
That one special thing that means more to you than anything else in the world.
And when you find her, you fight for her. You risk it all, you put her in front of everything
Your life, all of it. And maybe the stuff you do to help her isn't so clean.
You know what? It doesn't matter. Because in your heart you know
that the juice is worth the squeeze. That's what moral fiber's all about
http://community.livejournal.com/__quotexwhore/21681945.html#cutid1
Quotes Book - http://community.livejournal.com/__quotexwhore/21681206.html?view=107713334#t107713334
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| Thursday, May 7th, 2009
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7:50 pm
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i loved my mom very much, but when she was drunk she wasnt a mother...
For the Night - Musiq Souldchild
Cold Desert by: Kings of Leon
"This is for the girls who have endured party after party in his presence, finally having realized that it wasn't that he didn't want a relationship: it was that he didn't want you. I honor you for the night his dog died or his grandmother died or his little brother crashed his car and you held him, thinking that if you only comforted him just right, or said the right words, or rubbed his back in the right way then perhaps he'd realize what it was that he already had. This is for the night you realized that it would never happen, and the sunrise you saw the next morning after failing to sleep."
a girl only needs three things in her life: love to make her weak, alcohol to make her strong, and friends to pick her up when the first two make her hit the ground.
a drunken mind speaks a sober heart
and maybe between them there could be a forgiveness,
you need to understand the wounded in order to see
all the bad things they are doing. you wouldn't be able to
understand if you didn't know what they are going through.
sometimes it's easier to say that you don't care than to explain all the reasons why you do.
you're the type that thinks souls is sold in a store
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| Thursday, April 30th, 2009
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10:20 pm
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we cannot choose to succeed in what we try to do;
but we can always choose to try. (Sartre)
at each thing that happens to you, remember to turn to yourself and ask what capacity you have for dealing with it
(Epictetus)
make the best use of what is in your power and take the rest as it happens (Epictetus)
what upsets people is not things themselves, but their judgements about the things (Epictetus)
all experience is preceded by mind (buddha)
know thyself (socrates)
existence is that which is perceived, and nothing exists when there is no mind to perceive it (berkeley)
freedom would mean nothing if there were not something hindering the exercise of freedom (fichte)
what doesn't kill you, makes you stronger (nietzsche)
I want to climb into bed with someone and have them hold me throughout the entire night. I want both of us to be completely naked. No make-up to hide imperfections. I want to feel the intensity and warmth of their breath on the back of my neck without a cotton barrier. I want to feel every jolt of nervousness and doubt as they trace their fingertips over my body. I want to feel every curve and angle underneath their skin as they press their body up against me. I want to be trapped in their embrace. I want to be suffocated with the scent of them surrounding me; the roughness of a man’s hands as he traces lines over my own skin, taking pieces of me away and giving me mismatched pieces of himself to treasure and hoard for eternity. I want to close my eyes and feel nothing, think of nothing, but him and the way I fit perfectly into his arms, how we surely must have been created from the same mold. I want his body wrapped around me so tightly that I can only just catch my breath. I want my skin to tingle with his movements as he fidgets in his sleep, excited simply by the prospect of feeling his hands on me. I want him to bury his face into my neck, my hair, and tell me that he adores me. I want him to whisper words of devotion into my ear as I drift off into sleep, and I want him to continue hours after my breathing has deepened and my body relaxed. I want to wake up in the morning and squeeze my eyes shut, lying as silently still as possible so as not to wake him, just to prolong that precious moment. I want to belong and share and know what it is to love and be loved again without awkwardness or doubt or anxiety. I just need you.
Too often we sit back and take what life gives us
Like holding a bad hand of cards
Always folding instead of raising the stakes
Never wanna bluff and go for it
Afraid that you'll lose all you've got
But you can't win big if you don't bet big.
To let go isn’t to forget, not to think about, or ignore. It doesn’t leave feelings of anger, jealousy, or regret. Letting go isn’t about winning or losing. It’s not about pride and it’s not about how you appear, and it’s not obsessing or dwelling on the past. Letting go isn’t blocking memories or thinking sad thoughts, and doesn’t leave emptiness, hurt, or sadness. It’s not about giving in or giving up. Letting go isn’t about loss and it’s not about defeat. To let go is to cherish the memories, but to overcome and move on. It is having an open mind confidence in the future. Letting go is learning and experiencing and growing. To let go is to be thankful for the experiences that made you laugh, made you cry, and made you grow. It’s about all that you have, all that you had, and all that you will soon gain. Letting go is having the courage to accept change, and the strength to keep moving. Letting go is growing up. It is realizing that the heart can sometimes be the most potent remedy. To let go is to open a door, and to clear a path and set yourself free.
Maybe you were right to find your way out of my life.
You found comfort elsewhere while I held on way too tight
It's those things you hate about yourself
that someday someone will love about you.
Happiness will never come to those who
don't appreciate what they already have.
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| Saturday, April 25th, 2009
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8:28 pm
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The truth is, everyone is going to hurt you. You just have to find the ones worth suffering for
-Bob Marley
Experience it, enjoy it, just don't fall for it
-Almost Famous
Sometimes in life you have the right to be mad, but you don't have the right to be cruel
We're adults, when did that happen? And how do we make it stop?
-Grey's Anatomy
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| Saturday, April 18th, 2009
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6:56 pm
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you may think you'll never get over it,
but you also thought it would last forever.
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| Wednesday, February 11th, 2009
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10:40 pm
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'Cause what's left to lose?
I've done enough.
& if I fail, well then I fail,
but i gave it a shot.
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Abraham Maslow
Abraham Maslow accomplished a lot in his 62 years of living. He was born in the state of Brooklyn, New York, and was the eldest of 7 children. His parents were uneducated Jewish immigrants from Russia, and wanted the best life for their children. His parents pushed him hard toward academic achievement. Maslow pursued his parent’s wishes and began to study law. Later following his transfer from New York to Wisconsin, he became intrigued by psychology. His fascination grew rapidly and he went onto study Psychology at the University of Wisconsin. During Maslow’s studies at Wisconsin he became involved in researches of Rhesus monkeys under the supervision of the celebrated Harry Harlow. When Maslow graduated he received his BA in 1930, his MA in 1931 and his PhD level in Psychology at the University of Wisconsin. A year after his graduation, he returned to New York where he worked with E. L. Thorndlike at Columbia, where Maslow became interested in research on human sexuality.
Early in his career, Maslow was drawn to the study of human motivation and personality. From 1937 to 1951 was on the faculty of Brooklyn College. In New York he found two mentors: anthropologist Ruth Benedict and Gestalt psychologist Max Werthimer. He admired both professionally and personally. These two people were accomplished in both realms, and “wonderful human beings” as well, that Maslow began taking notes about them and their behaviour. This would be the basis of his lifelong research about mental health and human potential, which Maslow wrote about extensively. He borrowed ideas from other psychologists, but added significantly to them. These concepts include hierarchy of needs, metaneeds, self-actualizing persons, and peak experiences.
Maslow’s thinking was very original – psychology before him had been concerned with the abnormal and the ill. He wanted to know what constituted positive mental health. Maslow saw humans’ needs arranged like a ladder. The most basic needs were at the bottom, and physical needs: air, water, food, sex. Then one step up comes safety needs: security, stability, these were followed by psychological or social needs: belonging, love, and acceptance. At the top of the ladder came the self-actualizing needs: the need to fulfill oneself, to become all that one is capable of becoming. Maslow’s idea was that unfilled needs lower on the ladder would inhibit the person from climbing to the next step. For example, someone that is dying of hunger quickly forgets their starvation when they are deprived of oxygen. It is the idea that once one has successfully fulfilled one step of the ladder, they will move up to the next one. He felt that people who were dealing with the higher needs were what he called self-actualizing people. Benedict and Wertheimer were Maslow’s models of self-actualization, from which he generalized that among characteristics, self-actualizing people focus on problems outside of themselves. They also have a better idea of what is true and what is phony, are spontaneous and creative, and are not bound too strictly by social conventions. Although all of Maslow’s theories are derived from previous theories, they are incredibly interesting. As there are several examples of how this theory is true, there has been some criticisms directed toward the theory itself. The most common criticism concerns his methodology: picking a small number of people the he himself declared as self-actualizing.
Maslow is considered a distinguished figure in contemporary psychology. His career was a formidable one. In 1954 he began teaching at Brooklyn College, and was a professor there for 14 years. Maslow went onto Brandeis University as chairman of the Psychological Association, and this is where he started more of his theoretical work. In his time he wrote two important books: Toward a Psychology of Being (1968) and Motivation and Personality (1954, 1970).
Accredited as Maslow may be, he still attained a personal life. While at college in New York Maslow got married to his cousin Bertha Goodman. This decision both shocked and upset his parents. They decided to go through with the marriage despite their parents’ wishes, and later on had 2 children. Abraham Maslow is a very interesting man, and more intriguing theories. Therefore, I thought that he would be an excellent person to study.
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| Tuesday, December 16th, 2008
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10:04 pm
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Breaking Dawn by Stephanie Meyers is an excellent choice in the studying of the genre fantasy. It exhibits all essential components of a fantasy, and grasps the reader’s attention through thoughtful and descriptive characters and events. The presence of vampires and werewolves in the small town of Forks, Washington demonstrates the first characteristic of fantasy: distorting reality through the use of magic. Meyers introduces the reader to the idea that there are magical creatures that live hidden in our society. “They are creatures of the supernatural world, brother. Perhaps even more dependent upon the secrecy than we are.”(705) Another distortion of reality is how the werewolves and vampires came into existence. Their creation is unexplained. The majority of vampires do not remember their previous human life. “For everyone else, the pain of transformation is the sharpest memory they have of their human life. I remember nothing of being human.”(414) In the Quillette Tribe the children of the elders were the only humans to become werewolves. Their only knowledge of the transformation is that it took place when the Cullen family first moved to Forks decades prior. The unknown reason for existence leads the reader to come up with their own assumptions; therefore, drawing them into the novel.
Another essential characteristic of fantasy is a quest that the characters must go on to learn of new knowledge, discover new places or overcome particular obstacles. All three of these quests occur in the novel Breaking Dawn. Firstly, Bella and Edward journey to Island Esme for their first time as their honeymoon. It is here they discover Bella is pregnant with Edward’s child. This proves to be a predicament for Bella because she is too weak to carry a vampire child. As a result, Bella is taken back to Forks where she nearly dies giving birth to her half human half vampire daughter. Edward is able to save Bella by changing her into a vampire. However, it is against the vampire law set by the Volturi family to have a vampire child. In order to thwart persecution, Alice travels to Africa to search for other half human half vampire children. It is here she hopes to discover how the new Cullen child will mature. By learning of the child’s future, Alice hopes to convince the Volturi family to keep the child and her parents alive. Additionally, Edward’s choice of changing Bella into a vampire causes him to break the treaty with the Quillette tribe. Overall, the quests that the protagonists take part in create a chain reaction of interesting and conflicting events. The quests create suspense and conflict in the story as well as give the magical characters realistic and relatable qualities.
Limitations of power and authority figures are also used greatly in Stephanie Meyer’s novel. They are used to create obstacles, and contrast in character. It helps to develop the characters and discover how they would react in different situations. One limitation is how Edward is capable of reading every creature’s mind except for Bella’s. Secondly, Alice can see the future, but only if a set decision has been made. This adds to the story because if the powers of Edward and Alice were unlimited then Edward would not feel as strong of a connection to Bella, and Alice would know how to react to every new problem. The reader could not identify with the characters if they did not encounter problems for it is human nature to deal with the difficult tasks that we are faced with.
Overall, Breaking Dawn by Stephanie Meyers is an exceptional novel to read whilst studying the genre fantasy. It clearly demonstrates all necessary characteristics and is a well thought out and captivating novel.
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| Friday, November 21st, 2008
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8:59 pm
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my stomach hurt & i was crying.
but for once it was because of a good thing.
because i was laughing. hysterically laughing.
& i can say it's the first time in a while
that what you saw was a true smile.
You have to let go of who you were to become who you will be.
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| Tuesday, October 28th, 2008
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3:15 pm
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"Don't regret what you said.
Regret what you didn't say,
When you had the chance."
I wanted to be near him, I wanted to be in his arms.
I wanted to feel his essence, I wanted our lips to touch
and our fingers to brush against each other.
Never look down on anybody, unless you're helping them up.
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| Friday, March 21st, 2008
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10:19 pm
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Dear Dylan,
this is the letter i won't send. for the past week we've spent a lot of time together, getting to know each other well and i just wanted to say that you're a great guy; i respect how true to yourself you are. i think that you are a unique person and that i just can't get enough of you. i'm really sad that i've left just as we were getting to know each other better, but once you get back, i think that we should hang out and still talk all the time. to be honest, tomorrow morning i'm going to be sad when i wake up and don't smell the fresh florida air and know that i won't be able to eat breakfast with you and the other guys. even though i may not be the most dedicated person there, we both know that i still love the sport almost as much as you do, haha nat. anyways, the point of the letter is to just to tell you that you made my florida experience at the camp soo much more fun, and that i just generally love being with you. i regret not being completely honest with you last night when you asked me if what they said was okay with me, well it was more than okay.. but it didn't sit right because i'm confused still as whether you like me or not. and how i wouldn't tell you my 11:11 wish, because really it was pertaining to you, and i didn't want to make you feel awkward, 'cause i've never been interested in a guy like you before. you fascinate me. anyways, i just wanted to tell you some last feelings before i left from florida.
XOXO nw.
ps. i like you a lot.
---> it's too bad i didn't have the guts to give him this letter, i wrote it and was gonna put it under his pillow last night, but i chickened out and now i'm at home hundreds of thousands miles away.. and he's still there .. but he'll be home in a week :).. and i hope we'll get to hang out/
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| Sunday, January 13th, 2008
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| Sunday, January 6th, 2008
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| Thursday, December 20th, 2007
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7:05 pm
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And everything you hoped would last, just always becomes your past
And you can't lose what you never had, I don't understand why i feel sad
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| Monday, November 26th, 2007
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10:55 pm - http://www.salonvenere.com/salon/
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| Friday, November 16th, 2007
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5:39 pm
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Forgiveness is having the courage to take down the walls that we think are there to protect us.
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