Tina Toledo's Street Walkin' Blues (yodelayhayhoo) wrote, @ 2006-11-09 13:17:00

Current mood:	furious
Current music:	harder better faster -- daft punk

If you ever wanna see me mad... just mention this to me.
I can't even tell you how badly this pisses me off. Not at the person who wrote it. Just... the situation. The facts that brought this article about. The people who have caused the incomprehensible pain of so many others, including at least eleven of my friends.

And most of all, at the moment, the monsters who raped my sister.

lilmouse9 2006-11-09 19:41 (link)

I just read that article and oh my god...you have no idea how mad the situation made me. And how much it made me cry. But it also made me feel sorry and sad for all those women who don't and won't report it and get the help that they need. It just reminds me that there are lot of women out there that are not as lucky as I was when I was raped four years ago. And then I become grateful for the police officers that did believe me and helped me and that we need more police officers like the male and female officers that I talked to. God, I just wish people would stop thinking that women who are raped are loose or deserved it because they were wearing provocative clothing or consented to/wanted it because they giggled or whatever. The whole situation just makes me sick to my stomach and it just makes me see yet again, that women keep getting treated badly by society and by the system that is supposed to help and protect them. Yup, as you can probably tell, I'm just as pissed off as you are. I can relate so much to this. (Reply to this) (Thread)

yodelayhayhoo 2006-11-12 23:26 (link)

I knew you'd understand. ♥ (but : \ at WHY I knew for sure that you'd understand.) The sad thing is that it's not just women that get raped. I have three male friends who were raped by men when they were younger... and I think it's even more difficult for them to get the help they need, because rape is almost always associated with women being raped by men. [I also know someone who was essentially raped by a woman, because of how young he was when he was "seduced" by her -- I don't believe he was old enough to make that decision responsibly or to truly be held entirely accountable for it.] So yeah, rape (or any kind of abuse or violation) makes me furious... but particularly the fact that people can't even get the kind of help and treatment they need without being made to feel like the criminal instead of the victim. :( There are so many causes I'm passionate about, but I've always lacked the focus and ambition to DO ANYTHING ABOUT IT. But I'd like to volunteer for CASA someday... if I can gather the strength to even deal with my own crap. I can't help others if I'm just going to fall apart on them. : S (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

lilmouse9 2006-11-16 04:41 (link)

Yeah, I know what you mean about how it's more difficult for men to get the help that they need. Too many people think that rape is something that can only happen to women, but that's so not true. It can happen to men, too, and it is such a pain in the butt when they can't get the help that they need merely because of everyone has it in their heads that a guy can't be raped because he always wants to have sex or his hormones are raging or whatever. Anyway, as for you gathering the strength to deal with your own crap before helping others so you don't fall apart on them, I have faith that you will find a way to work everything out. You're strong, Mandie, and you can do it. :) (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	Re: yodelayhayhoo 2006-11-16 05:10 (link)
	Thank you!!!! Love you, Iris. ♥ (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

boycrazygrl747 2006-11-13 23:54 (link)

WOW. i finally got the chance to read this. the saddest part is how not surprising the entire thing is. there was recently a rape on my grad school campus of a girl by three members of the same sports team. the girl went over to hang out with the guys when she was drunk after a night out, and they took turns having sex with her and forcing her into sex acts as she drifted in and out of consciousness. she reported the rape the next morning, and the boys were arrested, but will they be convicted? of course not, she was drunk and went willingly to their room, so she MUST have planned to have sex with all of them. acquaintance rape kills me because people think that since the people know each other, or are even dating each other, that the sex must've been somewhat consentual. and if a girl was drunk because her date kept buying her drinks or even slipped her a drug? that's her fault, what was she doing *GASP* drinking?? people have heard so many stories of men being falsely accused of rape and teachers raping their students that the idea of what rape is has become so skewed. if you do not or cannot consent to sex, it is RAPE. so why don't the laws protect in this way? i'm very sorry to hear about your sister and, wow, eleven of your friends. (Reply to this) (Thread)

yodelayhayhoo 2006-11-16 07:03 (link)

AAAGH! That pisses me off SO MUCH, Cher! Just... AGH! Grrr. And stuff. I can't possibly convey my frustration and anger and sadness in words, so you get sounds instead. That poor girl. Gosh, I can't even imagine. :( People don't understand that rape can occur even within a marriage! You can have sex with someone a thousand times, but on their thousand and first attempt, if you tell them no, and they force you to commit a sex act against your will, that is rape, spouse/bf or not! Drunk or not, slutty clothes or not, stranger or acquaintance, IT DOESN'T MATTER. "No" means NO. I know I don't need to tell YOU this, I'm just... KLAUGIEOQUGL:KQJNLQWNE!!!!!!!! venting, I guess. Eleven, yep. I know it's a lot. It just goes to show how common rape is. But also, I guess I tend to be drawn to people who've experienced a lot of suffering in their lives. I obviously didn't know that all of these people were rape victims when I first met them, but there was something about each of them that made me feel like they were a kindred spirit. I've never been raped, but I think I empathize a lot -- my sister was gang raped in the park by our house when she was 13, by six of her classmates. She got pregnant from the rapes, but was keeping it all a secret (because she blamed herself for disobeying my parents when they told her not to leave the football game she and her friend were at); came home and cleaned herself up before anyone could find out... That's a HEAVY burden to bear at any age, but at 13? About to become a momma when she was still a baby herself? And she had to face the boys who raped her every day at school, while they taunted her and called her a slut, whore, etc. She knew she'd have to tell my parents eventually, because she planned to have the baby. She was actually excited that something good and beautiful and innocent was going to come into the world, regardless of the fact that it was a result of one of the ugliest acts in existence. She was hoping our parents would help her raise it... but she was too young, and miscarried. She kind of drifted through life for awhile, trying every drug she could get her hands on, drinking and cutting and doing everything she could to numb the pain, before finally giving up and slitting her wrists at 16. That's when everything came spilling out. Aaand this is just a comment, so I'll shut up, but yeah. It definitely affects me every day to see my beautiful, selfless, tough survivor of a sister and imagine the pain she went through as a little girl. Thankfully she turned it into something good -- she's a social worker now, helping people through similar situations. But it never fails to make me murderous with rage when I think about those monsters, and how they got away with it... [they also raped my sister's friend, but that's another story] (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)