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The liberty to write is a wonderful thing. Freedom of speech, yada ya. I've been thinking, as I've been known to do, and I've been thinking about my own assumptions on intelligence. The varied many forms. See, here's the thing: There are several types of intelligences. That's why there are artists who are pot heads and can visually draw the most incredible masterpieces, but put them in a classroom and it's "huh what?" Also, thats why there are the cheerleader types who get straight A's in school (academic, book smart -- ability to memorize facts, etc) but are flakes and incapable of holding real intelligent conversation. These are stereotypes, I realize. They were just examples. But you get what I'm trying to say. According to multiple intelligences, there are at least 7 or 8 (I believe) categorized intelligences. Now, I think there are a lot more than that, but some of the categories are: musical, spatial, visual, emotional, intrapersonal, interpersonal, logical, etc. Everyone is going to have their strengths and their weaknesses. My personal strength supposedly is musical (scoring as my highest). It is these personal differences which make us able to come together and create great things. However, I've been mulling over something for awhile now. How is it that someone who displays multiple of these intelligences (really showing an all-encompassing genius, really) can be so UN-intelligent in one of the areas that seems so... what's the word, "obvious"... "second nature"?? What I mean is, I can't be the only person who understands the psychology of mankind. Or, in other words, the domino effect of our actions. I know I'm not, because people write books on this, teach classes, etc. Most of it has been sort of second nature to me, but I guess some of it I've imbibed and adopted (But with relative ease). An example? Ok here's a quiz, let's see how you answer. Your significant other tells you every whim and thought that passes through his/her brain, without a filter. Even the thoughts about breaking up when he/she doesn't really mean it. Do you see this as a wise thing to do? Let me tell you what I think. I THINK, the answer is no, because everything we've said becomes a suggestion unintentionally. It's imprinted in the mind of the other, it's become a swaying factor whether it was intended to or not, merely because it was pressed to the other person's ear. What I mean is, now the receiver of such news is going to be going over that idea of breaking up.. or whatever else the significant other has said... it's always going to be there in the back of their mind. Any intelligent person, I think, would realize not to do such things because of the way people are impressionable. But this is just one example there are many others. Others such as realizing that manipulation doesn't work and only isolates you. The reason why I'm mulling over all this is because MY boyfriend likes to do these such things. And he's not your run-of-the-mill average intelligence or even slightly stupid guy. He's incredibly incredibly intelligent, probably one of the most intelligent people I know, and yet, completely lacks this form of intelligence. It doesn't seem to make sense to me. He carries on all day, paranoid of every little thing that could possibly come between us, when, long ago, I realized that worrying about stuff like that is wasteful, because you can never control what other people do, and you just have to trust as MUCH as one can REALLY trust another person. Which is to judge their character and make a call based on that, but knowing that you are never in control and whatever happens is GOING to happen, and if you try to prevent it you are only going to push people away. That is how I feel, and that is how I live MY life. He told me yesterday that when I am at home, I better not be going to the beach with my guy friends and wearing a two-piece because while he's working hard (at work), he doesn't want some guy mentally undressing me. I understand his jealousy, I do, but you cannot TELL someone that they cannot do something like that. Other things I modify because of his wishes, but this is really... I don't know, he can't control who thinks Im good-looking and I cant completely always wash away my sexuality. It's part of all of us. So-- it's inevitable that people are going to think Im hot, and when I present this to him? He says, "Well I can be just fine not worrying about my girl, and being alone, I don't need this." (Manipulation). He says things like, "Can't you respect this? Don't you love me?" (More manipulations). So Im cornered. I respect his wishes as much as I can, but if this means only wearing a one-piece bathings suit at all times around any guys, I think he's trying to play God. So, naturally, I feel distanced. And just try to ignore that he said that, and chalk it up to his anxiety problems. Do you see what Im saying here though? Some of these things.. it's like, I don't understand how he DOESNT SEE the manipulation and unintelligence in the way he's handling things. He's a very smart guy, I feel like his behaviors don't always reflect it. Or maybe Im too logical.. or have taken TOO many psychology classes (I do have my degree in it, afterall). But really, I think my attempts to handle the relationship the best way I know how, constantly considering others feelings, willing to negotiate, etc. Many things. It's being taken for granted, in a sense, because I don't receive it back. Arghh. I wasn't posing a moral dilemma of my own here... I was just using him as an example, for something I've been thinking about lately. It just seems so odd that there are people incapable of thinking the way I do (however, stuck-up that sounds).
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