popping in for a quickie
Popping in for a quick post... It's almost time to poke the sleeping bears. I think I'd rather poke a grizzly then to wake Jenna up some mornings. I swear she sort of resembles Linda Blair in The Exorcist. (Without the pea soup.)
My FIL has been laid to rest. The case is still being investigated. Family members are rolling over on other family members pointing fingers every which way. It's sad and frankly its ugly! My FIL's wife (K's step mom) is blaming her daughter. Her daughter is blaming her mother. They are both on drugs and have been for years. Pill snorters, I find that very disturbing. I can't stand to get water in my nose or use nasal spray let alone chop a pill up and snort it up my nostril!! I just dont get the thrill.
The funeral was interesting yet very sad. My FIL was buried in his deputy uniform, was given the firemans last bell, and whistle..along with honor guard, and escort to the grave site by fire engines, and ALSO had the VFW there who played taps, did the 21 gun salute and folding and presentation of the flag. Most funerals don't have that many "themes". The firemans last call was gut wrenching especially since it was delivered by my brother in law who is the fire chief. A very fitting tribute!! I dont care who you are if taps doesnt rip your heart out nothing will. It was an emotional day to say the very least. There were a good 300 people or more at his visitation the night before. It was something!
Theres so much more to this drama I wish I could write it all out but as I said it's all still under investigation and we were told not to talk specifics about the case amongst ourselves or with others. So for now I still with clinched lips and still fingers.
I have missed coming here to vent. K was off all last week he just back to work this morning. I don't like wrting when he is here. Not to mention our phone has been ringing non stop and he is so affraid he will miss an important call, which I understand.
I want to give a special thanks to both Lisa Marie and Jay for your kind words. I read your posts on my last entry I will reply probably today when I have more time. Right now I need to get the stick out and wrestle my sleeping bears!
Hugs to all,
me
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 walter_mitty
2009-09-28 16:56
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I had to laugh when I read your comments about your daughter ... I know EXACTLY what you mean. Waking my daughter up is like trying to clog dance across a mine field ... no matter how careful you are there's going to be an explosion. She likes to get mad and stay in bed, then gets up late and is pissed at all of us for letting her sleep late! I guess that's why God invented teen-agers -- to entetain us with Life's Great Mysteries.
Your FIL sounds like quite a man. I'm sure he had more friends than he could count. Public safety guys are truly a brotherhood, with bonds that go beyond just the usual friendship-type of thing. The military honors are beautiful and sad at the same time.
I don't know how K is taking this, but I can tell you from my experience that I think I was numb for the first few weeks. It was just impossible to believe he was gone. He was the last surviving parent, my Mom had died just 18 months earlier. I was unable to make a decision for months, I was so used to having my Dad to ask his opinion. Interesting thing is that all of us -- me, my brothers and sister -- all made big changes in our lives in the next couple of years after he died. I went back to college for journalism. My sister went back to be a physical therapist. My oldest brother left teaching college for a new career in a big corporation. My other brother quit his longtime state job and went to work for a Japanese automaker.
I know you're trying to be supportive of K and his family, and it sounds like you're being there for him and keeping the family going. I don't know how its going with his family, but times like this bring out both the best, and the worst in people, particularly family members. I eventually learned you have to cut them all a lot of slack when everyone's hurting in different ways. It's hard to do at times.
Good to see you on here again.
Hugs,
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un4givenone
2009-09-30 08:57
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Lol, I been there with the teen age drama. My son Justin was the worst. He wouldn't get out of bed he would lay there and scream at me about how tired he was, or say he had it under control then scramble and RUN at the very last minute cursing as he did. The kid used to climb into the shower and with the shower running he would lay in the bottom of the tub and sleep some more just to get me off his back. Since joining the Army I doubt he gets away with such behavior anymore. LOL
K is taking his fathers passing hard. He is on a one man crusade to answer all the questions that haunt him surrounding his fathers death. He has been playing dectective himself, he has a notebook full of notes, details and conversations. K was a police officer at one time. Of course not only him but the rest of the family on his fathers side want justice, I think some also want revenge, which is what scares me.
I agree about cutting some people slack, however its truly sad when more then likely my FIL died at the hands of someone he not only knew but loved. Wish I could go into more detail but I can't at this time. Im trying to let the police do their job. There's so much speculation as you might imagine.
As always I really appreciate your input. Thanks for reading , replying and helping me stay grounded.
Hugs my friend,
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