Geek_Lover (anime_men_rock) wrote in sin_slut, @ 2004-04-21 01:39:00

Current mood:	frustrated
Current music:	Let's GET it On---->Marvin Gaye

Hello Guys I need HELP!!
Ok I have a boy friend that lives like 2 states away and he says he loves me and I think I love him but I'm not quite sure. Some days I do and some I don't. I need to know if any one thinks its ok if I had one person on the side just for sex and then him too cause I do wanna be with him but I have needs too. Its been 5 months since I've been with him and to be honest he doesn't really do it for me. So is it wrong to wanna stay with him while I have meaningless sex with 1 other person. I'm not talking a whole fleet of men just 1 other man. I know to some it may sound wrong but I feel that in the end this might save our relationship. I won't wanna leave cause I'm not satisfied sexually when I am satisfied others ways with him. So if any one has some good insight or advise please let me know.

katmatz 2004-04-21 07:32 (link)

Here's what I see in your words. Your relationship to this guy is important, but not enough to abstain from sex while you're apart. If you're not that committed, there's probably no point in being together anyway. You could try being honest with him and telling him that the long distance thing is too hard and you think you should break up. You may even suggest that you two see other people. Do you ever see him? Do you talk on the phone, or is this exclusively an online relationship? Is there any chance of spending time together? You give the impression that you guys have never met in person. Is tihs true? Maybe you could suggest your idea of having a purely sexual partner on the side to him and see what he thinks. Although I have to warn you, being that intimate with another person on a regular basis is going to lead to some type of attachment. Again, it sounds like you're not really committed, maybe you should examine how important this relationship is to you. (Reply to this) (Thread)

ahh yeah xx__beth16 2006-03-06 21:46 (link)

okay! lol... I get what your saying! .. ahh not just guys have needs.. girls do too! and if your boyfriends like frigen two states away you deserve a little bit of sexual satsifaction!.. i mean.. this is just my oppinion long distnace relationships suck ass; and well your not really going out because your cant see eachother unless its on line (webcam) you can touch eachother unless you guys see eachother a lot and well god!.. a girl cant just cant just have some guy whos two states away GOD knows what hes doing but i mean if hes a good bf than he should be just jerking himself off! lol ; but ahh .. who knows maybe he has a partner for straight up sex!.. ah i get what your saying girl!.. but id break it offw ith him if ya cant see him cause really it aint that much of a relationship in the first palce!.. yeah.. but! shes right too because having a relationship with some guy thats a straight up sex kinda thing.. theres gonna be an attachment sooner or later!. augh believe me it happend to me.. ; i mean i knows i shouldnt be just doing it .. cause i really dontw ant too but ahhh hes soo seductive and i keep wanting to do him again and again, even if i find another guy.. thats why i tend to keep single because right now i cant have a steady relationship because im so addicted to this other guy because of this just "sex" thing.. ahh its horible! but deadly at the same time lol.. anyways lol hope ya figure stuff out! lol (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	Re: ahh yeah anime_men_rock 2006-08-07 19:32 (link)
	LoL...wow this was so old I FORGOT all about it!....it worked itsself out LoL!! (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	aphelia 2004-04-21 15:28 (link)
	i think if you're serious about finding a sex partner on the side, you should just dump the guy. that way, no harm no foul.. start from scratch. that's my advice. (Reply to this) (Thread)