Katie-Lyn (shesjustagirl) wrote, @ 2004-02-22 05:15:00

Stop...living a fantasy...
Hmmm...being engaged...at 18...without a ring??...Let me think...HAHA...HEHE...HOHO...HARHAR...Why does everyone seem to think that if you SAY you are engaged then you automatically are??...Why would you want to promise yourself to anyone who cant even buy an engagement ring??...I mean a measley Walmart cubic zirconia...wouldnt hurt...okay maybe it would...but still...IF YOU CANT AFFORD TO BUY AN ENGAGEMENT RING...WHAT MAKES YOU THINK YOU CAN AFFORD A MARRIAGE??...You need to wake up from your playing mommy and daddy fantasy...*

	bleeding_juliet 2004-02-22 21:02 (link)
	i never thoguht about it that way...but yea your right. lol. poor person who thinks their engaged. (Reply to this) (Thread)

	Re: shesjustagirl 2004-02-23 01:41 (link)
	haha...well thats what im here for sweet pea...to share a different point of view...and shed light on subjects that may have never crossed your mind...* (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	selfhealer 2004-02-25 13:11 (link)
	i dunno, i recon if you can give a verbal commitment then thats all it should take to be engaged. u dont need to give a ring the first time u tell someone u love it and mean it. i dunno, guess thats just me. having said that, id prolly get my nuts cut off if i proposed to my jem without a ring.... go figure (Reply to this) (Thread)

	Re: shesjustagirl 2004-02-26 01:36 (link)
	hehe...you are adorable...i am sure you wont get your nuts cut off...shell love you and thats all that will matter...right?? * (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

cartman 2004-03-08 16:28 (link)

Isn't that contradicting yourself a lil bit hun? There are good points and bad points to a couple saying that they are engaged when they (meaning HE) can't afford an engagement ring for themselves (meaning HeR). Like selfhealer said, professing ones love to another and having it be accepted is a wonderful thing and to me, if the emotions and commitment is great enough, that constitutes as an engagement (I agree with 'im). On the otherhand, in this world marriage is a contract, a bonding of finances for better or for worse. You need to have credit and have it in good shape and you have to be extremely wary of your spouse-to-be's credit as well. SO...wanting to actually go through with a marriage when you can't afford the engagement ring is not a smart move. Depends on how long the girl/woman is willing to wait to have the wedding and whether or not she wants to sacrifice not being able to have the wedding she's always imagined (also depends on how long it will take the guy to actually raise the money to afford the ring and the whole wedding fiasco/ceremony and honeymoon if they have one/can afford one at all). Being engaged @ 18 though?!?! Also depends, lol (its kind of an ongoing theme with me isn't it?). Depends on how mature BOTH people in the couple actually are. Marriage is nothing to rush into unless you 1) Know thyself And 2) Know your partner very very well (It wouldn't help if your partner knows themself as well, lol. And by know thyself I mean ~ maturity.) We're all young and stupid in our own ways whether we want to admit it or not so farbeit from me to rain on their lil fantasmical parade. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	Re: shesjustagirl 2004-03-09 08:21 (link)
	it depends...it depends...it depends...let me make my point of view clear for you hun...IF YOU CANT AFFORD AN ENGAGEMENT RING YOU CANT AFFORD TO BE IN A MARRIAGE... * (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	cartman 2004-03-09 18:29 (link)
	No shit but that's only the financial aspect. And there is a LoT more to marriage or an engagement than just finances. I understand it annoys but think about WHY it annoys you for a second... Why is it that you don't want them to live their little financially doomed fantasy? (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	Re: shesjustagirl 2004-03-09 18:43 (link)
	done. * (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

cartman 2004-03-10 02:58 (link)

LoL, okay. All I'm saying is that part of love is pain and if their love is strong enough it can overcome bad finances. If the girl can wait for him to be able to afford it then by all means, more power to them and best of luck. But how old? 18? 20? That's pretty damn young. Chances are they haven't experienced enough to know if this is what they really want for the rest of their life OR they don't know THEMSELVES well enough to go to that next level of companionship... Know what I mean? Not all people are mature at that age (/our age). There's a huge difference between finances and feelings. If the long term commitment is there and they are 150% sure that they can stay together for life then hope the best for them (especially if they are friends of yours...are they?). (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)