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perfection
this was originally in response to a comment made on my entry when i said that all i'm looking for is the male version of me. nick said that was my problem right there - what i'm looking for doesn't exist. here is what i have to say about that:
i know he doesn't exist. but i bet someone close to that exists. a girl can dream, can't she? i just think it's funny that everyone has these lists of things that they want their ideal person to be, and when you really look at it, the ideal person is just them, but better. it's usually who they'd be if they were braver, or funnier, or had a better sense of style, or had read more books than they had. that's who we all want to be with - the tyler durden of ourselves. some people don't feel that way, they would rather have a challenge...but most of the people i know want what i want. someone they strive to be. it gives us someone to look up to. i think that's why a lot of people say that the one they love makes them a better person. it gives us all goals.
even though i know that it would be impossible to find a guy who is exactly like me, (which is actually a good thing because we all want to be unique, right?) i think it's more about finding someone who has the right combination of traits that you both have in common, and then some other traits that don't outweigh the common ones. i spend a lot of my free time watching the discovery channel, so it would be good to find someone who also likes it, or else he will be very bored with me on the weekends. however, i also like muppets more than most people. if he wasn't crazy about the muppets (but i mean, how could you NOT be??) it wouldn't be the end of the world. we could get along in a muppetless world. it's all about that balance between wanting to spend time with each other and wanting to tear each other's eyes out. aw how sweet.
i know none of this excuses the fact that i want what doesn't exist. but everyone i know has some impossible dream that they have - a perfect body, perfect grades, perfect job, etc. if we had nothing to look forward to, what the hell would be the point of life?
and now i end as all good english majors do; with a quote...
"Aim at perfection in everything, though in most things it is unattainable. However, they who aim at it, and persevere, will come much nearer to it than those whose laziness and despondency make them give it up as unattainable."
- Lord Chesterfield
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(Anonymous)
2004-11-08 08:53
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It sounds like what you want is some sort of father-figure. You shouldn't want someone to "look up to." Give them a reason to look up to you. All you need is yourself, I promise. And as soon as you realize that, you'll find something more important to strive for. -Nick (Reply to this) (Thread) |
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(Anonymous)
2004-11-08 16:21
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I don't know how much stock you put into astrology but assuming for a moment that it's a workable theory:
I once dated a guy with my birthday. We were exactly the same in every way. It was great at first but then everything I never knew I disliked about myself came and slapped us both in the face. Lesson: nothing is worse than dealing with your own faults times 2.
The following quote has nothing to do with that but I thought it was quasi-apropros of your post:
Jack: You're quite perfect, Miss Fairfax.
Gwendolen: Oh! I hope I am not that. It would leave no room for development, and I intend to develop in many directions.
(The Importance of Being Earnest)
~ Dawn(Reply to this) (Thread) |
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