aaaaaaaaaaaa (greycellz) wrote, @ 2003-07-22 15:34:00

Current mood:

virtual

Online love
I've seen and heard so much about online love.
Personally I feel that there's nothing like love in real life.(because for one, the phrase Love at first sight goes for a toss in online love)

What do you guys think ? And if you are not too lazy, then do write why do you think what you think.

	khushee 2003-07-22 19:19 (link)
	Well, I can't say much about online love because I've never been in that situation. But then, we can't just assume that online love is not just like real love.. unless you have been in both situations and are able to compare :D Whatever works out for you.. :) (Reply to this) (Thread)

	greycellz 2003-07-24 09:58 (link)
	Hmm.. interesting point. But remember you don't have to do it all upfront to know things. There's something called vicarious knowledge. It's just like I hate to buy things online (unless I get a huge deal) since I like to have a feel of things that I mean to buy - be it the sabzis or be it a camcorder. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

whiz 2003-07-23 01:53 (link)

There is love... the concept doesn't come from a fertile mind alone... I have never fallen in love with anyone at first sight... frankly the way my mind works, it would be extremely difficult for me to do something like that... but I do believe, like plenty of other things I haven't experienced first hand, that it is possible... It takes all kinds to make a world... Online love... hmmm depends on how you look at it... if you mean meeting someone and developing a relationship with him/ her on the net, I think it's not only possible, but more frequent than we'd care to imagine... it's possible to fall in love with a person without actually meeting him/her... webcam/ duplex sound... they can substitute for the real thing... it's possible to still get to know the person ...innit..?? QED..? (Reply to this) (Thread)

	greycellz 2003-07-24 10:10 (link)
	It's possible but is it the better ? (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	whiz 2003-07-25 00:49 (link)
	Is it better for me? No Is it better for you? Probably not Is it better for somebody, somewhere? Most certainly ! :) (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	greycellz 2003-07-28 14:14 (link)
	Agree ! (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

on-line love (Anonymous) 2003-07-23 15:48 (link)

hmm...good question..well, i've kinda experienced both kinds of love and will have to agree that there's nothing like real-life love with all the touching, caressing, hugging, kissing...on-line is good interms of the fact that many things we express much better in writing but not seeing the person and not being with the person totally sucks. plus fights on-line are really bad coz when ur face to face you actually see the persons expressions but on-line ur totally clueless and sometimes even innocent words can be interpreted wrongly. -diya (Reply to this) (Thread)

Re: on-line love greycellz 2003-07-24 10:15 (link)

;) Maybe you can strike the middle path - use the online interaction as an appetizer and the one on one for the rest of the dinner. One point to note though - you can always have it 'all' in real but online you can do only so much - maybe one day we'll be advanced enough to make online love much more interesting ;) Obviously inadvertantly people make up an unreal image of themselves when online and when one actually meets 'em its kinda sucky, as you said. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	(Anonymous) 2003-07-24 05:42 (link)
	What is real? abhi vritti.net (Reply to this) (Thread)

greycellz 2003-07-24 10:19 (link)

What is real ? What is real ? Hmm let me see.. Basically I meant to say real=in person without the use of any other man-made or otherwise aid as opposed to the virtual world which is the internet and its peripherals. I think when there is no misrepresentation of facts about oneself, that is real. While online what you know about the other person is that person's views about him/herself so that's not real for me. HTH Thanks for dropping by.. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	(Anonymous) 2003-07-24 10:32 (link)
	Just a thought...you do get to know a lot about a person's way of thinking online...fellow bloggers for example. And as long as you are online friends, he/she is what you think he/she is, and you are at perfect liberty to fall in love...nothing can go wrong as long as you two know each other online only! Som. (Reply to this) (Thread)

	greycellz 2003-07-24 10:47 (link)
	That's a remarkable thread of thought. So, essentially, you are hinting at the idea that the entire lifecycle of your love should be consummated online. I think if one can live with it then it might indeed be a very happy idea. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	(Anonymous) 2003-07-28 14:06 (link)
	If one cannot live with it, if one gets to know each other, the other person will invariably be different from what he/ she is in your mind. It is only the lucky few that continue to feel the same way afterwards. Som. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

(Anonymous) 2003-07-25 11:53 (link)

Abhi... I think it is posible to fall in love with someone online. Has not happened to me.. lekin I can see where that comes from... u interact with a stranger..talk to him ..share thoughts...ideas... u know ur frequency matches so perfectly that u think it is impossible to find someone better.. I would not advocate the idea of deciding to be with someone for the rest of ur life based on this. No mattr how much u have interacted with the person, it is always different when u actually physically are with him/her... -Sapna (Reply to this) (Thread)

	greycellz 2003-07-28 14:10 (link)
	Point taken. Yep, ultimately it boils down to one's personal comfort with online love or otherwise.. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

bungler 2003-07-27 06:08 (link)

Online love is happening more often now. You definitely hear of people meeting online and falling in love. I guess it could be a variation of the old anonymous phone call where someone calls someone else and chats them up. And then one thing could lead to another. It's definitely not a substitute for meeting a person, but it a good way to get a headstart in the love game. You could actually figure out whether you like / get along with a person or not before meeting them. (Reply to this) (Thread)

	greycellz 2003-07-28 14:12 (link)
	I thought it'd be kinda difficult to figure that out, given that in an online situation, our perception of the person is based on the facts gathered from the person him/herself - a sure case wherein the facts are likely to be biased. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

bungler 2003-07-29 12:10 (link)

I think I have a fair idea of what people are like by reading their blogs. When you first start a blog you probably are artificial but as you keep writing you ease into the role and start to reveal more of your real persona. I figure it is the same with online love. You can't help revealing characteristics of your true self. Its just that someone has to notice them. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	greycellz 2003-07-29 14:34 (link)
	Good point ! (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	Re: bungler 2003-07-30 06:00 (link)
	Hola ! We finally agree on something ;-) (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)