slut face (like_that_) wrote in advancedsextips, @ 2005-08-21 02:30:00

how do i have a "just sex relationship" without feelings getting involved? i want to do this, but i'm afraid i'm going to get hurt, so if anyone has done this, or can give good advice to me, i'd really like it. i just need to learn how to see this guy as sex (because he's going to be doing the same to me)... i don't want to fall for him.

thank you. :)

_medusa_ 2005-08-21 19:14 (link)

I have done this and I wouldn’t really recommend it. Someone always seems to get hurt. A few of my friends have had the same experience that I have. Lucky for us we were not the one that got emotionally attached. I have had to find a way of breaking up with some one I wasn’t even dating. (Believe me this takes some skill) If you are going to try it then the only thing I can really recommend is if you feel yourself getting attached stop. (Reply to this) (Thread)

opnin 2005-08-21 22:18 (link)

I have been on this quest for several years now - trying to have a sex only relationship with someone (the worst choice being a freind). I find that often I am just trying to convince myself that I have no feelsings for the person as I know that they're not reciprocated. In the back of my mind I find myself thinking maybe if this goes on long enough they'll fall for me - a garaunteed ticket to pain city. The two or three occasions that I've felt like I had a casual relationship working it turned out that the girl was simply the one in my shoes. I thought we were having an open relationship and suddenly she's crying because I've slept with someone else. The only success I can say I've really had with this is when I've kept the sex to say once every couple of months. And stuck to it... (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	shanmiester 2006-04-19 16:10 (link)
	uh uh honey, this does NOT workkk... i tried that recentlyy, and trust me, one of you will get feelings for the other one. it fucking suckss, dont do it! for real. stick to someone who likes YOU for YOU and not for the use of your assets. (Reply to this) (Thread)

	drinksearlgrey 2008-08-08 06:31 (link)
	Silly to reply a three-year-old message, but here goes anyway. "Friends with benefits" works for some people. It doesn't work for others. If you try such a relationship and it feels bad, you're probably one of the people it doesn't work for. In that case, don't do it. (Reply to this) (Thread)