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Dear Dani,
You asked me what I thought, but I didn't feel like I could tell you. I feel like any opinion I give you is compromised in your mind because of my personal history with him. But here's what I think:
1) I think that he is using you. I think that this is probably the fourth time that you've said, "I just need to not be around him for awhile," and then totally forgiven him less than 24 hours later, as soon as you and he have a "deep talk".
I know that he can be very persuasive. We talked about that, you and me. Isn't ironic that he said he might want to be "couple-y" with you, and in order to really make his decision, he'd need to make out with you for awhile? And isn't it strange that he still hasn't given you his answer?
The problem with this is that you keep going back to him as a friend, a friend who's feelings you don't want to hurt. I know that you feel guilty for being mad at him, even if I don't understand exactly why that is. That's why you give him his time on the soap box. And he can be very sincere. Or, he can SOUND very sincere. How many things has he told you that he later contradicted? Most of them were his Very Sincere Talking Points.
Also, RE: your dates with Dustin. He seems like a nice guy. A little intense sometimes, but you haven't known him long enough to make any concrete descisions. But you are trying to do to him what Tim did to you. You're going to have an open relationship with Tim? Is that fair to Dustin? I mean, those huge hickeys on your neck are kind of hard to miss.
Here is my prediction for your future: You will continue to get screwed over by him again, and again, and again. If you decide to give Dustin a chance, he will end up dumping you, and if you end it with him now, you will end up regreting it. Maybe you'll learn from this mistake. I don't know. All I know is that I will be stuck here, listening to you complain about it till Judgement Day.
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