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Jessica (litai115) wrote,
@ 2003-12-03 02:45:00
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    my eharmony profile
    Apparently, I'm so strange that they can't even fit me into a profile, which means they won't match me. Isn't that nice? Anyway, I still got a personality profile, so I'm sharing it with you. I've bolded the things I find particularly true. Some of it I think is bullshit...but again, I don't know what the HTML is for writing the line through it. Oh well. If you know me, hopefully you'll know what's true and what's not.

    By analyzing your answers to the Relationship Questionnaire we have created the following Personality Profile. Everyone has a set of subconscious wants and desires that drive their choices and attitudes. By asking you questions about a wide range of emotional issues, this report has established general patterns in your values.

    Some of the following information may seem inaccurate or incomplete. Remember, that this profile is a snapshot of your personality at a specific moment. It is not intended as an in-depth analysis of your complete being, but as a tool to aid in self-discovery.

    - Others may see you as disciplined and self-controlled. You have seen the problems of being overly optimistic when planning to depend on others following through.

    - You usually assume a cautious and reserved demeanor when meeting new people. Your relationships must grow naturally and in sincere ways. You will not confide in others readily because of your need for security.

    - Others showing genuine sincerity and acceptance impress you. You do not like a shallow expression of feelings or thoughtlessness of others. You will get along with most people you meet because you don't cause hostility.

    - Because of your thoughtful nature, you need others to express sincere interest in you or the relationship. This offers the secure feeling that you seek.

    - During times of stress or tension, you may withdraw inside yourself and appear as somewhat cool and aloof. You need to be alone when thinking through projects, problems or solutions.

    - You may be a matter-of-fact person who may be critical of the shortcomings of others who display a more emotional or outgoing side.

    Each person has a unique way of communicating. We use a combination of body language, facial expression, verbal tone and word choice to share ourselves with others. The following statements offer a look at the natural behavior you bring to an interpersonal relationship. [This section, overall, was quite dissatisfying.]

    - You may be somewhat reticent and retiring when with others, especially in a large group. As others grow louder, you may become quieter. You value control of emotions, and are more reflective than rowdy.

    - Because of your need to be quiet rather than rambling, you are somewhat introspective about events and activities. You may not communicate readily and rapidly with others, but this does not mean you don't support others.

    - You attempt to influence others not by showing great emotion, but by appealing to the logical nature of people. Those who are more emotional and excitable may sometimes ignore your approach.

    - Some people may inaccurately perceive you as not liking people. You may be misread by others, because you approach social situations with logic and objectivity, judging others by their competence--you may sometimes be misread by others.

    - You are usually astute in social situations because you take little at face value, will listen carefully and accurately, and will watch others carefully.

    - You tend to listen rather than talk. You may place a premium on display of emotions. As a result, "reading" you at times may be difficult.

    - You may want to base relationships on a nonemotional respect for each other's abilities, and base your level of trust on directness and straightforwardness.

    Many different factors determine the communication styles with which you are most comfortable. Some individuals thrive on the challenge of pointed criticism, while others are at their best in a nurturing environment where criticism is offered as a suggestion for improvement. Each of us has a unique set of requirements and preferences. Below is a list of communication styles that will mesh well with your own. Having a partner who understands and practices these traits is important to your long-term happiness.

    - Have facts and ideas in a logical order.

    - Provide options, rather than opinions.

    - Give pros and cons of ideas.

    - Ask specific questions--preferably "WHAT" questions.

    - Be brief, clear and to the point.

    - Prepare for demanding questions, and perhaps objections.

    - Be ready at the exact time.

    - Stick to the topic.

    - Be on time.

    - Use a logical and unemotional approach.

    - Show patience, especially when drawing out information.

    - Provide questions and choices for making decisions.

    Following are some of the specific strengths and/or personal characteristics that you bring to a relationship. These may form the foundations of many of your friendships and dealings with other people. Some will seem obvious, but you may be surprised by others. Take a moment to reflect on each and consider what role it may have played in your past successes, and even failures.

    - Like games of competition and skill.

    - You are good at "troubleshooting" potential problems in a relationship.

    - You generally don't like to back away from a challenge.

    - You place a high value on being direct and honest when expressing thoughts and feelings.

    - You tend to be tenacious about solving problems, not liking to give up until something is resolved.

    - You like to analyze problems and discuss their possible solutions before taking action.

    - You like to initiate new activities.

    - You don't tend to get distracted by superficial issues.

    In general, human beings are defined by their needs and individuals by their wants. Your emotional wants are especially important when establishing with whom you are compatible. While answering the Relationship Questionnaire you established a pattern of basic, subconscious wants. This section of the report was produced by analyzing those patterns. Our wants change as we mature and obtain our life goals. You may find it valuable to revisit this section periodically to see how your wants have changed.

    You may want:

    - Respect among peers and friends for your quiet manner.

    - Opportunity for personal involvement.

    - To be seen as a leader.

    - Rewards for your ideas, and results for your actions.

    - Objectivity and logic in relationships and activities.

    - Freedom to act independently from time to time.

    - A supportive environment where you do not have to display great emotion.

    - Opportunity to talk about your ideas and prove your skills.

    - Straight talk and straight dealing.

    - New challenges and problems to solve.

    - Time away occasionally--you value your privacy. [Which I never knew until Dan made me the epicenter of his entire life.]

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