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There comes a time....
Well...This is going to probably be a lengthy post and i'm mostly posting this in reply to a friend of mine whom is going through a rather tough time. These are just a few things that I think that are key things to remember when going through life, they may, or may not connect or make sense with you, but at least just skim through it.
First off, there comes a time when you have to realize some things, beleive me. I've been there before, and it took me a while to realize these things, but i'm glad I did. You've got to remember that the shit people go through right now is meaningless. Compared to everything else, everybody's problems are miniscule and minute and they're not worth going through such pain and emotion. There are some things and people that just aren't worth that shit. You've got to realize this sometime man. Here's some advice, not just for him, but for everyone else as well. Think about who you're around everyday. What do you feel like when you are around those people? Let me tell ya, if you feel anything but love for these people (and you know what I mean by love...not the super serious kind) then you shouldn't be around them.. You should surround yourself with people that are going to make you feel better about yourself and people that like you for you and not just people that put you down and lower your self esteem. There are quite a few of my friends that need to realize something. No matter what happens in your life and what people tell you, you will always be worth something to someone, wether it be a lover, your family, your friends. I have lots of people that are very special to me and I wouldn't do anything in the entire world to hurt them. If you can't get the same type of reaction or respect, whatever you wanna call it, back from them, then they're not your true friends. That's something that we all, at some point, realize. True friends stick by you through thick and thin no matter if you're right or wrong. They always got your back. That's how me and a lot of my friends are. One also shouldn't obsess with trying to find "the one." You all know what I mean. We're all at this age where we start dating and getting girlfriends and/or boyfriends (depending on your sexual preference of course) Some people are lucky enough to find that someone to spend the rest of their lives with in school, and that's great. Other, unfortunately, are not. but that's ok. Because you know what you should view high school as? Practice. High school is just practice for when you get to college and start to get into the real serious type of stuff. I mean for god sakes we're high schoolers! We're anywhere between the ages of 14-18!! We still have the next ten years to decide who we're going to be spending the rest of our lives with! This is a really big step for most people, and it's one that should not be made so hastily. Just remember that next time there's someone you like, and they don't like you back. It's not necessarily that there's anything wrong, some people just don't have those feelings for others. You can't force someone to like you. It's got to happen naturally. But always keep in your head that you will find the one for you someday. There's like elventy billion people in the world. You're telling me that out of all those people in the world that isn't anyone for everyone? That's a load of crap. Everyone finds their soul mate eventually. Just remember that.
Another thing that this person and of course, everyone else could learn this as well, you aren't a piece of shit and you aren't totally screwed up. No one ever is. Everyone has self-worth. If there is ever a moment that you, or anyone for that matter, should ever doubt this, then that is sad that you've gotten to that point. Depression can be a very powerful thing. I have been there. I know that all of you reading this think that I have such the perfect life and that nothing ever goes wrong within my life and my family, but trust me, you are so totally naive if you think that. There's a lot of shit that's gone on in my life, you'd start to wonder why I am the way that I still am. Beleive me, i've faced my share of hardships, my life is defenitely far from perfect. But even as you go through life and you face these trials and tribulations, you have to always keep one thing in mind, that you will get through it. I know that it's hard to keep a positive attitude, especially when things look to be getting really tough, but you have to try. I know it's been hard for me to keep such a positive attitude, but I try to always look on the bright side of things. In the end, it makes things better. I'm sure most of you are sitting there right now saying that I couldn't be more wrong and that i'm a naive little bastard for thinking it, but you should watch what you say, for I know far more than you think. But again...this is merely just a statement I am making. It is up to you as to wether or not you want to agree or disagree with it. I know that other things are harder to get over (like the death of a friend) but you have to put yourself in there shoes. If it had been you that had died would you want all your friends being depressed all the time and sad that you died? I mean yeah...they'd be sad, but there comes a point to where you can't let it interfere with your life. Just keep that thought at the back of your mind.
One last thing that you should realize is that you can't blame yourself, no matter what happens in any situation. You should be happy with yourself as long as you've done all that you can do, and all that is within your power. It's not your fault if you tell someone something and they don't listen to you. They cant say that you didn't warn them. They have no one to blame but themselves, and although it may lead to them getting hurt, that's just something you'll have to deal with because that's just a repercussion of there action. Granted...when/if they make these mistakes, you should still be a friend to them and be there when/if they need it (under certain circumstances of course). That's another thing that friends do for each other, they forgive one another for the things that they do. No one person can stay mad at someone forever. Eventually, weither it be twenty minutes or twenty years, they forgive each other. Hell after that long they probably don't even remember why they got mad in the first place. Just give it time man...give it time. You know what i'm talking about.
In closing, one just has to remember these things when they're facing hardships. Also, one should feel that they are never truly alone. I know that people may feel that way when they get down or when they get stressed and that no one could just never ever know what they feel, but there are people that do know and understand how you feel, and, you're never ever alone. You've always got some sort of support group you can turn to. Just remember that you aren't alone in anything.
I hope that at least some of this made sense to some people and got through to at least half of you. This is shit that i've been wanting to say to a lot of my friends for a long time. I sincerely hope that you all take me seriously on this and take what i've said into consideration.
ON A LIGHTER NOTE I GOT A NEW DOG :)!!!! ITS A SOLID BLACK COCKER SPANIEL! WEE!
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